mostlylurking
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I agree with you about the importance for a woman to have financial independence. I think that this allows for a more balanced and healthy position for both parties.What’s being said is that the right circumstances don’t really exist right now. And no one is saying that career women are guaranteed good relationships, but what is being said is they are guaranteed the ability to pack up and leave if things get dodgy and they may have stricter standards (which lead to them getting better partners). Both routes can lead to fulfillment or unhappiness but one woman has the agency to change her situation while the other is kind of stuck.
People are talking in absolutes in terms for the sake of discussion. There are more than two ways to go in life for women of course. Most people fall somewhere in the middle. A family oriented lifestyle could go with a lighter career and often times it does ( I know personally I benefited from the undivided attention of my mother during my childhood but what works for some might not work for everyone).
What has been left out of this conversation is the concept of the capacity for intimacy. It would be nice to believe that people get wiser and increase their capacity for intimacy and genuine appreciation for the opposite sex as they get older, but I'm not holding my breath. Real intimacy is the glue that holds the relationship together.