She says it doesn't matter because she loves me but it's still depressing to me because everytime we have sex I'm just reminded it would be better if I was bigger. I already do focus on all the other stuff.Does she care? Maybe you need to hear more validation from her that you please her. Focusing more on how you enrich her life rather than on how she doesn’t orgasm with you could help. Emphasize the positives and making it the sole seat of significance