Herbie
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I've found if one wants to be successful, Its important to know what you want. The question is am I looking for a life partner/husband/wife?
If so than there is a danger which occurs. After some time on no fap it's common to get extremely aroused and in these states one may pursue sexual relations with people who you wouldn't normally pursue and end up doing and experiencing undesirable things, maybe even winding up in a disfunctional/codependent relationship, derailing life plans and goals, regret it, sleeping with someone's wife, disrespecting boundarys, knowingly take advantage of vulnerable women, lie, feel disgusted and cause harm to your self and others and delay actually finding or pursuing the life partner/husband wife.
It's like being drunk for days/weeks and having less inhibition and going with people who in your instincts know to not pursue.
I'm not religious but learning through experience and at this moment feel that random sexual encounters with poorly matched partners who I'm not fully attracted to and visa versa is destructive behaviour. But if you just want a huge motivation to get yourself out there than its probably the most effective thing around.
I've found no fap to be a paradox where not practicing no fap is actually an insurance which stops me doing in my opinion stupid things and allows me to focus on the mundane nesssary life things like learning a skill/art and developing as a person and keep a logical and clear mind.
If so than there is a danger which occurs. After some time on no fap it's common to get extremely aroused and in these states one may pursue sexual relations with people who you wouldn't normally pursue and end up doing and experiencing undesirable things, maybe even winding up in a disfunctional/codependent relationship, derailing life plans and goals, regret it, sleeping with someone's wife, disrespecting boundarys, knowingly take advantage of vulnerable women, lie, feel disgusted and cause harm to your self and others and delay actually finding or pursuing the life partner/husband wife.
It's like being drunk for days/weeks and having less inhibition and going with people who in your instincts know to not pursue.
I'm not religious but learning through experience and at this moment feel that random sexual encounters with poorly matched partners who I'm not fully attracted to and visa versa is destructive behaviour. But if you just want a huge motivation to get yourself out there than its probably the most effective thing around.
I've found no fap to be a paradox where not practicing no fap is actually an insurance which stops me doing in my opinion stupid things and allows me to focus on the mundane nesssary life things like learning a skill/art and developing as a person and keep a logical and clear mind.