My dad's health is getting worse, he's low calorie pescatarian, and my mom (his wife) is a ranting narcissist. Do you know of anything I can do?

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Ok check it out. My father, who is 72, is developing early signs of dementia and Parkinson's or perhaps essential tremor.

Normally I would just say this is what happens to people, but recently I have been studying Sarno, and believe there may be more to it. My mom is a narcissist and my dad is codependent. He is afraid of her. He is not allowed to have his own opinions about things. Since he retired, I have watched him further submit to her and let her make all decisions, because if he makes a decision that is different from what she wants, he'll get yelled at (not really yelled at, but lectured and shamed). These are what I believe contribute to his heath problems.

My father is a vegetarian. He has been for more than 10 years. My mom became a vegetarian and shamed him into becoming a vegetarian. Of course, she tells him he can eat meat, but he won't, because he knows he'll endure shaming from it.

I am codependent, too, resulting from a childhood of narcissism, but I have learned this recently and am going about resolving it (therapy).

I am sad, I watch my father every day be sad (my dad is a military guy and will not say he is sad). He is unhappy every day but cannot stand up to my mom, who is the source of it even though he would never admit it. My father's purpose in life is to take care of her. He is the nicest person on the planet, yet, my mom being a narcissist cannot be happy, so the more he tries, the greater her unhappiness.

It breaks my heart to watch him be sad constantly. My dad and mom usually spend their days in different rooms. They only interact when it's time to eat or when he is getting belittled for something, or told what to do. My mom has a lot of gross habits, and my dad has started copying them (solidarity?). When I ask my dad about some of the weird things my mom does, he defends her (if this concept is weird to you, imagine a beaten wife making excuses for her husband). My dad tries constantly to do or say things that will make her happy, but they don't work. He has developed a method of interacting with her where he is basically being completely without opinion until she says something, and then he grabs onto that opinion and elaborates. This keeps him from getting yelled at for having his own opinions, and keeps her calm mood, so he can be protected.

My mom is a pretty bitter person all around, to be honest.

I cannot give my dad health advice. He only listens to my mom.

Similar to myriad narcissists, my mom has convinced my dad (and everyone else in the family) that she knows the most about everything. Even if my dad doesn't believe it, he would never share his own opinion or question her.

My dad needs to go to the doctor, but my mom gets him not to go. She'll say things like "well there's nothing they can do" (wtf), or "well you've had every test there is", or other stupid bull****.

My dad doesn't eat enough. He is skinny and tall and probably eats (estimated) 35g of protein per day (two bowls of cereal with skim milk and some fish).

My dad is super intelligent. I mean like, this dude is the smartest guy you or anyone you know will ever meet. I'm not saying that because he's my dad, I'm saying it because he's true. Trivia like he's memorized the encyclopedia, advanced math done in his head, etc. Ridiculous.

His cognition is declining (diet and trauma?). I don't know what to do. He won't do anything and it's pissing me off, which is just causing me to get frustrated. I want him to realize my mom is making him unhappy, but I don't think he would admit that regardless of computing it.

Thoughts?
 
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It sounds like a difficult situation. Both of them could use some B vitamins I think. Some gelatin or even Jello might help. It sounds like both of them are low energy and it makes your mother cranky and your father is getting apathetic. If they could eat more that would certainly help. Do they eat sweet things? Ensure and Boost aren't the greatest and I don't really recommend them but they are concentrated calories. If they would consume something similar that might help.
 
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Ok check it out. My father, who is 72, is developing early signs of dementia and Parkinson's or perhaps essential tremor.

Normally I would just say this is what happens to people, but recently I have been studying Sarno, and believe there may be more to it. My mom is a narcissist and my dad is codependent. He is afraid of her. He is not allowed to have his own opinions about things. Since he retired, I have watched him further submit to her and let her make all decisions, because if he makes a decision that is different from what she wants, he'll get yelled at (not really yelled at, but lectured and shamed). These are what I believe contribute to his heath problems.

My father is a vegetarian. He has been for more than 10 years. My mom became a vegetarian and shamed him into becoming a vegetarian. Of course, she tells him he can eat meat, but he won't, because he knows he'll endure shaming from it.

I am codependent, too, resulting from a childhood of narcissism, but I have learned this recently and am going about resolving it (therapy).

I am sad, I watch my father every day be sad (my dad is a military guy and will not say he is sad). He is unhappy every day but cannot stand up to my mom, who is the source of it even though he would never admit it. My father's purpose in life is to take care of her. He is the nicest person on the planet, yet, my mom being a narcissist cannot be happy, so the more he tries, the greater her unhappiness.

It breaks my heart to watch him be sad constantly. My dad and mom usually spend their days in different rooms. They only interact when it's time to eat or when he is getting belittled for something, or told what to do. My mom has a lot of gross habits, and my dad has started copying them (solidarity?). When I ask my dad about some of the weird things my mom does, he defends her (if this concept is weird to you, imagine a beaten wife making excuses for her husband). My dad tries constantly to do or say things that will make her happy, but they don't work. He has developed a method of interacting with her where he is basically being completely without opinion until she says something, and then he grabs onto that opinion and elaborates. This keeps him from getting yelled at for having his own opinions, and keeps her calm mood, so he can be protected.

My mom is a pretty bitter person all around, to be honest.

I cannot give my dad health advice. He only listens to my mom.

Similar to myriad narcissists, my mom has convinced my dad (and everyone else in the family) that she knows the most about everything. Even if my dad doesn't believe it, he would never share his own opinion or question her.

My dad needs to go to the doctor, but my mom gets him not to go. She'll say things like "well there's nothing they can do" (wtf), or "well you've had every test there is", or other stupid bull****.

My dad doesn't eat enough. He is skinny and tall and probably eats (estimated) 35g of protein per day (two bowls of cereal with skim milk and some fish).

My dad is super intelligent. I mean like, this dude is the smartest guy you or anyone you know will ever meet. I'm not saying that because he's my dad, I'm saying it because he's true. Trivia like he's memorized the encyclopedia, advanced math done in his head, etc. Ridiculous.

His cognition is declining (diet and trauma?). I don't know what to do. He won't do anything and it's pissing me off, which is just causing me to get frustrated. I want him to realize my mom is making him unhappy, but I don't think he would admit that regardless of computing it.

Thoughts?

Yes, MB. Methylene Blue. I'm not your doctor. I don't know his patient history. I'm spitballing based on what I've read, what I've experienced, and what my network has experienced.

Put 1 drop (typically 0.5mg) in a glass of water and (with your Doc's approval) perceive the seemingly miraculous positive effects on cognition (and metabolism in general).
 

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@ironfist just try to make your dads try some new things that will increase his energy,his will and freedom,don’t present it like something for his health that oppose doctors of your mom view,present it like something playful or dad/son activities.make him try some grass fed grass finished veal/lamb fresh liver that taste good,exempt
Of unpleasant flavor,not herbal,not cow ***t taste.when I went out of vegetarian diet this is the food that made the most drastic difference to make me more resilient and less submissive to any kind of authority even among my own family,overall have energy yourself so you are more
Convincing and influencial,make him experiment with things that make you feel energetic/non submissive yourself and see how he react
 
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Ok check it out. My father, who is 72, is developing early signs of dementia and Parkinson's or perhaps essential tremor.

Normally I would just say this is what happens to people, but recently I have been studying Sarno, and believe there may be more to it. My mom is a narcissist and my dad is codependent. He is afraid of her. He is not allowed to have his own opinions about things. Since he retired, I have watched him further submit to her and let her make all decisions, because if he makes a decision that is different from what she wants, he'll get yelled at (not really yelled at, but lectured and shamed). These are what I believe contribute to his heath problems.

My father is a vegetarian. He has been for more than 10 years. My mom became a vegetarian and shamed him into becoming a vegetarian. Of course, she tells him he can eat meat, but he won't, because he knows he'll endure shaming from it.

I am codependent, too, resulting from a childhood of narcissism, but I have learned this recently and am going about resolving it (therapy).

I am sad, I watch my father every day be sad (my dad is a military guy and will not say he is sad). He is unhappy every day but cannot stand up to my mom, who is the source of it even though he would never admit it. My father's purpose in life is to take care of her. He is the nicest person on the planet, yet, my mom being a narcissist cannot be happy, so the more he tries, the greater her unhappiness.

It breaks my heart to watch him be sad constantly. My dad and mom usually spend their days in different rooms. They only interact when it's time to eat or when he is getting belittled for something, or told what to do. My mom has a lot of gross habits, and my dad has started copying them (solidarity?). When I ask my dad about some of the weird things my mom does, he defends her (if this concept is weird to you, imagine a beaten wife making excuses for her husband). My dad tries constantly to do or say things that will make her happy, but they don't work. He has developed a method of interacting with her where he is basically being completely without opinion until she says something, and then he grabs onto that opinion and elaborates. This keeps him from getting yelled at for having his own opinions, and keeps her calm mood, so he can be protected.

My mom is a pretty bitter person all around, to be honest.

I cannot give my dad health advice. He only listens to my mom.

Similar to myriad narcissists, my mom has convinced my dad (and everyone else in the family) that she knows the most about everything. Even if my dad doesn't believe it, he would never share his own opinion or question her.

My dad needs to go to the doctor, but my mom gets him not to go. She'll say things like "well there's nothing they can do" (wtf), or "well you've had every test there is", or other stupid bull****.

My dad doesn't eat enough. He is skinny and tall and probably eats (estimated) 35g of protein per day (two bowls of cereal with skim milk and some fish).

My dad is super intelligent. I mean like, this dude is the smartest guy you or anyone you know will ever meet. I'm not saying that because he's my dad, I'm saying it because he's true. Trivia like he's memorized the encyclopedia, advanced math done in his head, etc. Ridiculous.

His cognition is declining (diet and trauma?). I don't know what to do. He won't do anything and it's pissing me off, which is just causing me to get frustrated. I want him to realize my mom is making him unhappy, but I don't think he would admit that regardless of computing it.

Thoughts?
Get your dad started on hormone replacement therapy immediately. He needs to be using gonadotropins like hCG and hMG and therapeutic doses of testosterone. The gonadotropins are important. If you only use testosterone, you'll be deficient in a variety of other steroids that are responsible for feeling of well-being. As soon as your dad does this you won't need to worry about his eating habits. He will gain a massive appetite and start eating.

I would actually recommend a consultation with some online hrt center. Something like Royal Medical Center. The reason why I'd recommend this is because they will give you what you want... They don't care. That might sound kind of bad, but it's really not. They're not there to mess around and get you to book useless appointments in an effort to collect more money from you and waste more time. These online hrt centers are results based and they're generally going to be quick and to the point so they can get you what you need. They make money by getting you and as many other people as possible exactly what they want with as little interaction as possible.

Just find somewhere online that prescribes gonadotropins like hCG. Many hrt specialists are prescribing gonadorelin (GnRH) which is great for younger people that don't have any damage or dysfunction to the pituitary, but, for a man your dad's age, pituitary function is likely nowhere near as good as it once was and gonadorelin would probably not be very effective.

Don't give your dad much room to refuse doing this. He won't regret it. The very first day he injects hCG, he'll likely feel 100x better than he's felt in many years and he'll have the drive to be more active, his outlook will change, and he'll very likely not let your mother walk all over him.
 
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His cognition is declining (diet and trauma?). I don't know what to do. He won't do anything and it's pissing me off, which is just causing me to get frustrated. I want him to realize my mom is making him unhappy, but I don't think he would admit that regardless of computing it.
This is all hormonal. Your dad is hypogonadal at his age and hormones control literally every aspect of physiology. There's nothing that diet will do to fix this.

My dad doesn't eat enough. He is skinny and tall and probably eats (estimated) 35g of protein per day (two bowls of cereal with skim milk and some fish).
You will see an immediate change in his appetite within days if you get him on HRT. Literally, get together with your dad and have a consult with an online hrt center and just tell the doctor that he wants to feel good. They're not going to play around with you and hold you hostage by giving you just enough to make you feel ok until you beg for more. They're just going to give you exactly what they know you want and need. They'll make you get some blood work initially and then bimonthly thereafter and the vials of hormones will be sent to you in the mail. It's relatively inexpensive as well... I think maybe a couple hundred dollars a month or less.
 

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I would aproach it like war. You would have to drive a wedge between them, appeal to your father's intelligence and maleness in order to steer him away from destruction of himself and encourage her to go more extreme in the direction she is already going.

If anyone doesn't like this plan, they haven't been in this situation and haven't contemplated the devistation of losing their father especially when it's slow and preventative.
 
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Well, I'd love to have this conversation with my dad, but here is how it would go:

Me: Dad, I think we should get you some tests at the doctors...
Dad: Well, there's not much they can do.
Me: How do you know?
Dad: Well mom says...

or

Dad: well the doctor gives me all the tests I need at my regular visits

And you need to get it, I wouldn't be able to change his mind.

My parents know I have an interest in wellness and my mom has convinced my dad that stuff I say is wrong, crazy things I read online. The only person who has any health knowledge is my mom (who either makes ***t up or gets it from tv doctor talkshows).

Is the thinking in this thread that my dad's subservience to my mom is because of hormone issues? Or his medical issues can be because of these?
 

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Is the thinking in this thread that my dad's subservience to my mom is because of hormone issues? Or his medical issues can be because of these?

It's definitely hormonal. You just need to be adamant when speaking with your dad that getting on hormone replacement therapy will be a complete paradigm shift for him. Step through it logically. He's in his 70s. At this point, there's absolutely nothing that a change of diet is going to do because he doesn't have an appetite to begin with and his metabolic rate is severely slowed down. I'm not sure exactly what medical issues your dad has, but many of them would probably be completely alleviated on HRT. Muscle pain, joint pain, arthritis, fatigue, lack of drive... These are all things that will either significantly improve or just completely cease to be a problem.

If you have to, be a pain in the ****. Tell him that you'll pester the sh!t out of him until he agrees to at least try HRT. There's no way he won't be interested in continuing after trying it for a couple weeks.
 

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Anyone your dad's age should be on HRT. It shouldn't even be a consideration, but rather a necessity at that age. Unless, of course, your goal is to live a miserable quality of life for your remaining years.
 

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Well, I'd love to have this conversation with my dad, but here is how it would go:

Me: Dad, I think we should get you some tests at the doctors...
Dad: Well, there's not much they can do.
Me: How do you know?
Dad: Well mom says...

or

Dad: well the doctor gives me all the tests I need at my regular visits

And you need to get it, I wouldn't be able to change his mind.

My parents know I have an interest in wellness and my mom has convinced my dad that stuff I say is wrong, crazy things I read online. The only person who has any health knowledge is my mom (who either makes ***t up or gets it from tv doctor talkshows).

Is the thinking in this thread that my dad's subservience to my mom is because of hormone issues? Or his medical issues can be because of these?
hi,thats why i adviced you to not expose the things you want your dad to do as health advices that goes againts your mom opinion,expose it like fun things,dad/Son activies,for fun/manliness/sport whatever,just be smart so its not perceive as health advices that goes againts your mom will.

your dad propensity to submit to your mom authority is health/energy related in his context from the informations you gave.the context where you can have great health/energy and still submit to au authority is when you know that the consequences of not submitting to this authority on your health/energy could be significant.do your dad depend on your mom to have a home,and to eat, or can sustain himself even with out her,if he depend on her would he still depend on your mom for these things if he would get a better health/energy?

Do you yourself feel energetic?if you work on that you will be way more convincing,and it wont even necessary be perceive as confrontational,or negatively,plus its better for you to know which signs to look for that indicate that your dad is on the right path of improving is energy/health,some can be subtils,some can be drastic.

i guarantee you that if you feel energetic yourself you are significantly more likely to make your dads try new things even if they are not your mom perspective
 
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Let me give you an example. My dad has been complaining about his shoulder hurting recently. He has been mentioning it pretty frequently for a few weeks.

We had this conversation.


Dad: I forgot to start with my other arm while putting my shirt on this morning.
Me: Dad, you should go to some physical therapist for this.
Dad: Oh, I don't know if it's bad enough for that.
Me: You've been telling me it hurts every day for 2 weeks. Go to a physical therapist. You can get a zero charge evaluation so you can't even complain about its cost being an issue*
Dad; (changes subject)



*my dad is wealthy. Price is not the reason he doesn't do things.

I'm fairly certain my dad doesn't want to go because my mom would shame him for it. My mom likes to talk about how physical therapy doesn't work. My mom's answer for everything is to take ibuprofen. Even when it's a tendon injury and you're not supposed to take nsaids. Then she'll go on a rant about how she takes ibuprofen every day and blah blah. Yet, I think if she told him to go then he would, possibly if she said it was ok he would go, but I know he would get guff if he said "hey, my shoulder hurts, I'm going to the physical therapist." So he doesn't.
 
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@ironfist your first exemple was clear enough,i understand the situation.its positive that is isnt not a weath issue,so your dad doesnt rely on your mom for money,and its about his own state,and its changeable.

there is 2 main ways:
you do try to make your dads experiment with things(things that are not necessary doable into a medical organism) that increase his energy/health,you do not expose them as health advices,you use your creativity,intuitions and intelligence to ensure these things are perceive as dad/mom friendly,like dad/son relation ship activities.

you do reach a higher energy,and enough emotional resilience so you will be more convincing in exchange,independently of the relevance of your speech,and you will be able to handle your moms weapons,whever her arguments,or her reminding you that she is is control,or her reminding you that she has the knowledge,you will be able to handle all of this with out getting emotional,i did not influence a single person in my life doesnt matter how hard i try even my family until i got a higher degree of energy my self.

you can probably not play the ampathy/pity/emotion appeal card with your mom,she will very likely not be sensitive to it. it has to be things that are not perceive as threatening her controll,
or you do enter a certain degree of confrontation to her perspectives and authority, you have to make her accept your equal or higher relevance/power on certain things,and for that you need to get more convincing yourself,get more energy and confidence.its not much about how well you learned your theories,its mostly about having energy/confidence and having the good intuitions to when to put some humor,when to be more serious,when to be more playfull,when to respect less her sensitivity and dominate more.

and from your mom perspective,why would she give more credit to your perspectives rather than her own perspectives?which characteristics do you have or your speech possess that would make her do that?
 
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The real issue is your dad. Sounds rough but he probably has been codependent from a young age. It is your chance to change it. Not him but yourself. To not make the same mistake.

You have to realize your dad (subconciously) chose for this situation. If he had testicles he would make your mother leave or he would leave himself. Women can become tyrants when uncontrolled. A lot of women push boundaries further and further. Like children.

Shame is not physical violence. Shame = words. If he is afraid of words then I think it is hard to help him.

Women, incl. my mom shame me all the time. But I don't take it and they respect that. This stuff is about respect. Your mom has none for your father.

Anyways to help him directly I would advice him to take a low dosage B vitamins daily, tell him to eat more meat, tell him to start working out, etc.

If he does not listen to your advice then I would leave him behind and focus on yourself to not become like him. BTW a lot of modern relationships are like this. So don't worry you are not special and it is fixable for yourself. You need to help yourself first anyways before you can help your father.

This comes from a guy with a submissive father and a strong willed mother. It took me a few years to change direction and to understand. Trust me your relationship with your mother will improve as well if you grow some testicles.
 
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I think you should subjugate your mothers authority in front of your dad. Tyrants need to be stood up to, weaseling around her is just going to reinforce her “iron fist” on both of you
 

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Eggs may help both brain and hormones.

Perhaps you can slip some boiled eggs to your dad.

Warning: If your mum gets suspicious, she may come looking for your dad’s egg dealer.
 

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I'm telling you @ironfist, food isn't going to do it. If you manage to get your dad to listen to you about some dietary change or simply getting him to eat more, nothing miraculous is going to happen and he'll be even less likely to trust you moving forward.. Not to mention, I'm sure your mother will have also coerced him into believing that nothing you say should be trusted after eating "X" food did nothing to help your dad.

Don't worry about food or diet. That will take care of itself once your dad is getting sufficient hormone replacement. Set before him two options: he can continue in misery as he is with his wife dominating over him, completely lacking the drive and will to do anything on his own accord and living with fatigue and all sorts of joint and muscular pain, or he can can get on HRT and start immediately feeling good.

Your dad will have to inject himself or he'll have to go somewhere and have a nurse do it. I recommend you help him do it until he feels comfortable doing it on his own (which he won't at first because he has extremely low testosterone and low dopaminergic function and, as a result, has anxiety and zero drive).

Here's what I'd recommend doing. Give one of the hrt clinics a call and explain to them the situation. Tell them about your dad's behavior, his indecisiveness and reluctance to make any decisions for himself, his low drive. Have them on your side doing their best to insist that your dad needs to do this. Schedule an appointment with them and then just get together with your dad and tell him right before the scheduled appointment that you'd like for him to speak with a doctor very briefly about hormone replacement. Do it when your mom is out or if you need to, get your dad alone and out of the house while mom stays home. You can even do this in the car.

I can't really recommend anything else at this point. Your dad's well-being, happiness, and sense of purpose for the remainder of his life kind and depends on this. Nothing else will even come close to helping him as much as this will and he'll know it within days.
 

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@ChemHead there is peoples that are on HRT and are still still wimp even when they have a a high muscle mass,why do you claim with absolutism that his dad must be on HRT and thats the only solution to escape this situation,if some of peoples on HRT are still wimp?
 

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@ChemHead there is peoples that are on HRT and are still still wimp even when they have a a high muscle mass,why do you claim with absolutism that his dad must be on HRT and thats the only solution to escape this situation,if some of peoples on HRT are still wimp?

Because he's 72 fcking years old and he's hypogonadal. He 100% is steroid deficient. I'm willing to bet that whoever these people you're talking about on HRT that are still "wimp" are far less wimp than if they weren't on HRT. And as I mentioned @ironfist, testosterone alone isn't good enough. Your dad needs gonadotropins like hCG along with testosterone. Otherwise he will be deficient in a lot of the many other important steroids the body makes, including neurosteroids.

Hormone deficiency is the very first problem that needs to be fixed. Everything else comes after. And not only that, but most of the problems he has will simply cease to exist. He'll develop an appetite after HRT and you won't have to try to get him to eat. He'll be hungry and feel a physiological compulsion to eat far more than he currently is.
 

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Ok check it out. My father, who is 72, is developing early signs of dementia and Parkinson's or perhaps essential tremor.

Normally I would just say this is what happens to people, but recently I have been studying Sarno, and believe there may be more to it. My mom is a narcissist and my dad is codependent. He is afraid of her. He is not allowed to have his own opinions about things. Since he retired, I have watched him further submit to her and let her make all decisions, because if he makes a decision that is different from what she wants, he'll get yelled at (not really yelled at, but lectured and shamed). These are what I believe contribute to his heath problems.

My father is a vegetarian. He has been for more than 10 years. My mom became a vegetarian and shamed him into becoming a vegetarian. Of course, she tells him he can eat meat, but he won't, because he knows he'll endure shaming from it.

I am codependent, too, resulting from a childhood of narcissism, but I have learned this recently and am going about resolving it (therapy).

I am sad, I watch my father every day be sad (my dad is a military guy and will not say he is sad). He is unhappy every day but cannot stand up to my mom, who is the source of it even though he would never admit it. My father's purpose in life is to take care of her. He is the nicest person on the planet, yet, my mom being a narcissist cannot be happy, so the more he tries, the greater her unhappiness.

It breaks my heart to watch him be sad constantly. My dad and mom usually spend their days in different rooms. They only interact when it's time to eat or when he is getting belittled for something, or told what to do. My mom has a lot of gross habits, and my dad has started copying them (solidarity?). When I ask my dad about some of the weird things my mom does, he defends her (if this concept is weird to you, imagine a beaten wife making excuses for her husband). My dad tries constantly to do or say things that will make her happy, but they don't work. He has developed a method of interacting with her where he is basically being completely without opinion until she says something, and then he grabs onto that opinion and elaborates. This keeps him from getting yelled at for having his own opinions, and keeps her calm mood, so he can be protected.

My mom is a pretty bitter person all around, to be honest.

I cannot give my dad health advice. He only listens to my mom.

Similar to myriad narcissists, my mom has convinced my dad (and everyone else in the family) that she knows the most about everything. Even if my dad doesn't believe it, he would never share his own opinion or question her.

My dad needs to go to the doctor, but my mom gets him not to go. She'll say things like "well there's nothing they can do" (wtf), or "well you've had every test there is", or other stupid bull****.

My dad doesn't eat enough. He is skinny and tall and probably eats (estimated) 35g of protein per day (two bowls of cereal with skim milk and some fish).

My dad is super intelligent. I mean like, this dude is the smartest guy you or anyone you know will ever meet. I'm not saying that because he's my dad, I'm saying it because he's true. Trivia like he's memorized the encyclopedia, advanced math done in his head, etc. Ridiculous.

His cognition is declining (diet and trauma?). I don't know what to do. He won't do anything and it's pissing me off, which is just causing me to get frustrated. I want him to realize my mom is making him unhappy, but I don't think he would admit that regardless of computing it.

Thoughts?
Infrared therapy intermixed with hyperbaric oxygen.
 

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