LUH 3417
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Yes I definitely understand. I feel like I am in a similar process. Now I can get angry and let the anger flow thru me - feel it in my body and rant and curse while I’m taking a walk or jumping on a trampoline or whatever - but then i feel the feeling and it’s felt and acknowledged. I can be available to feel other feelings for the rest of the day now that I’ve recognized and accepted my anger and expressed it (hopefully in a non destructive way!). At some points I would get angry and stay angry constantly and carry it with me wherever I went.Not really. You can have those feelings without having those feelings govern you, if that makes sense? In the past, when I express being "sad' I would actually mean I would obsess over it, get depressed etc. Now it's like OK I acknowledge the feeling but it doesn't affect me as harshly.
I did indeed use to be authoritative with him to try to get him to turn around, I've since acknowledged that he's gonna do his own thing and there's nothing I can do about it so I don't these days.