Hey people,
hope you are all well!
Unfortunately, in my life I had two very bad experiences with my neighbors. Not only were they loud, but conversations about how to reduce the volume were blocked and I felt powerless. At one apartment I had three children above me who stomped incessantly. According to German law, this is allowed and the neighbors knew that.
Now I live in a quiet house and am happy. But I have developed a sensitivity to noises and that stresses me a lot.
An example: my neighbor's dogs sometimes bark in the stairwell.
From this my brain makes: you can't take a nap, the dogs might bark.
So whenever I lie down I can't really relax because I expect the dogs to bark and I wake up from that and then I'm mad etc etc.
I don't have any neighbors above me, but I do have a nice woman below me. This I sometimes hear running in the morning and wake up (or I am awake before and then notice it - no idea). This makes me aggressive/anxious.
When I travel, I am always very afraid of the volume in the rooms beforehand. Maybe you know those weirdos who move some chairs around at 1am.
Generally I am an anxious person with a PTSD diagnosis, but in this case I am sure my brain just had crappy experiences and also subconsciously assumes that the neighbors want to harm me. Which is total bull****.
I don't think the years of using earplugs did me any good either. I would be interested in your opinion. By the way, they do not help with the footsteps of my neighbor or the barking of dogs.
How do you work EFFECTIVELY with these triggers, i.e. the emotional reaction to sounds?
hope you are all well!
Unfortunately, in my life I had two very bad experiences with my neighbors. Not only were they loud, but conversations about how to reduce the volume were blocked and I felt powerless. At one apartment I had three children above me who stomped incessantly. According to German law, this is allowed and the neighbors knew that.
Now I live in a quiet house and am happy. But I have developed a sensitivity to noises and that stresses me a lot.
An example: my neighbor's dogs sometimes bark in the stairwell.
From this my brain makes: you can't take a nap, the dogs might bark.
So whenever I lie down I can't really relax because I expect the dogs to bark and I wake up from that and then I'm mad etc etc.
I don't have any neighbors above me, but I do have a nice woman below me. This I sometimes hear running in the morning and wake up (or I am awake before and then notice it - no idea). This makes me aggressive/anxious.
When I travel, I am always very afraid of the volume in the rooms beforehand. Maybe you know those weirdos who move some chairs around at 1am.
Generally I am an anxious person with a PTSD diagnosis, but in this case I am sure my brain just had crappy experiences and also subconsciously assumes that the neighbors want to harm me. Which is total bull****.
I don't think the years of using earplugs did me any good either. I would be interested in your opinion. By the way, they do not help with the footsteps of my neighbor or the barking of dogs.
How do you work EFFECTIVELY with these triggers, i.e. the emotional reaction to sounds?