delysid
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I haven't had sex in 4 months, and two days ago I agreed with a girl I met that we'd hook up. That night, massive performance anxiety crept in. Like I couldn't stop thinking about it and I couldn't fall asleep. About how it could go wrong. About what should I do, which best supplements and foods to take. Sky high adrenaline. Same as the next day, while telling myself to relax all the time, breathing, meditating, etc.
I think I have okay testosterone and libido in general (but ofc I want to improve it) and feel comfortable when going out on dates, etc.
The moment arrived, she texted me she was downstairs. My hands were cold and sweating. My back was aching and stiff. Isn't sex supposed to be pleasant and fun?
During foreplay, I relaxed a little bit, but at some point I lost the erection. I focused on the moment again and with some caressing I regained it. I finally could penetrate and 3 seconds later I ejaculated. End of story.
My mind keeps going back to bad sexual experiences, despite all the breathing and meditation and telling myself it'll go alright. Some times it's ED, sometimes it's PE.
Every time it has gone well in the past few years, I'm sure I had drunk quite some alcohol. Or it was the next day, hung over, when it ALWAYS goes fine. (Go figure!)
Since this happens a few times a year (having sex with someone new) is there a substance that can help me here? I read I'd need low adrenaline and high dopamine so something like Phenibut you think would help taking a few hours before the encounter? Phenibut + lisuride? Mirtazapine + caffeine? How do I obliterate adrenaline and have little or no anxiety around sex as I once had?
Or just keep getting drunk whenever I want to see a girl?
I really need to break this anxiety vicious circle. Thanks
I think I have okay testosterone and libido in general (but ofc I want to improve it) and feel comfortable when going out on dates, etc.
The moment arrived, she texted me she was downstairs. My hands were cold and sweating. My back was aching and stiff. Isn't sex supposed to be pleasant and fun?
During foreplay, I relaxed a little bit, but at some point I lost the erection. I focused on the moment again and with some caressing I regained it. I finally could penetrate and 3 seconds later I ejaculated. End of story.
My mind keeps going back to bad sexual experiences, despite all the breathing and meditation and telling myself it'll go alright. Some times it's ED, sometimes it's PE.
Every time it has gone well in the past few years, I'm sure I had drunk quite some alcohol. Or it was the next day, hung over, when it ALWAYS goes fine. (Go figure!)
Since this happens a few times a year (having sex with someone new) is there a substance that can help me here? I read I'd need low adrenaline and high dopamine so something like Phenibut you think would help taking a few hours before the encounter? Phenibut + lisuride? Mirtazapine + caffeine? How do I obliterate adrenaline and have little or no anxiety around sex as I once had?
Or just keep getting drunk whenever I want to see a girl?
I really need to break this anxiety vicious circle. Thanks