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When I first tried EFT I was in a similar state as you (the world as I had known it had just ended, and I was in a pit of despair), and it worked like magic. Even just following along to a few generic videos on YouTube caused deep relaxation, and after just a couple sessions with a practitioner, I was like a new woman. It's interesting how certain therapies will or won't work for certain people at certain times, for no obvious reason.
This is some reporter looking for an angle to a clickbait story. I know from hard experience that unless you're in a profession like acting or maybe construction, the world generally does not find moodiness and grumpiness amusing or a particularly valuable trait...at least when they themselves are on the receiving end. If anyone else is receiving it can be amusing. But when the misanthrope turns on you...not so much. I can pretty much guarantee you it's not an appreciated trait in the PC-correct Beeb newsroom.
Makes sense @whodathunkit. I also think as a species anger is a language we all understand. It will be interesting to watch the future develop and how it will play out.This is some reporter looking for an angle to a clickbait story. I know from hard experience that unless you're in a profession like acting or maybe construction, the world generally does not find moodiness and grumpiness amusing or a particularly valuable trait...at least when they themselves are on the receiving end. If anyone else is receiving it can be amusing. But when the misanthrope turns on you...not so much. I can pretty much guarantee you it's not an appreciated trait in the PC-correct Beeb newsroom.
For the last 30 years misanthropic moodiness unintentionally became my "hobby", and it definitely doesn't pay off in today's uber-sensitve, PC office culture. Unless, of course, people see a temporary use for it (like when a PITA needs to be told where to get off, and you're the only one with the temperament or guts enough to do it), and then everyone's your friend. But after that, you're relegated to the curb again.
Personally, I'd rather work with a competent arsehole who tells people to bugger off when they need it than an incompetent "nice" person, but most of the world doesn't feel that way anymore.
I know this might seem like it contradicts the warm, fuzzy tone of my previous posts in this thread, but it really doesn't. Having hope and deliberately trying to see the good in life has absolutely nothing to do with saying "sod off!" to someone who desperately deserves it.
Yeah, it will.
YES! And how to change it
Powerful stuff. Seems we do have some control over it...
We do! It's funny because I've been doing "neuroplastic" type exercises and therapeutics deliberately for a long time (sporadically, except for last couple years which has been in the main consistently sustained effort) but didn't know it was called as such.
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Great distinction. Also like the article spoke about - deliberate use of anger to serve you as opposed to suppressing it and having it come out sideways as arrows directed towards everyone around you.
Well, no one goes thru life smiling all.the.time. Actually, I am quite suspicious of people who always "on", fake smiling, perpetually blissful and professing to never have any problems. Like that's why I hate nighttime TV chat shows. They are SO fake. But they put on this pseudo "hey, hey" all the time to keep it entertaining. A lot of people pretend to others and themselves. Self delusion. I can't handle my problems so I pretend they aren't there. But eventually, their problems come out with various coping mechanisms which people develop like drinking or drug problems. Instead of just dealing with the issues. But being grumpy sometimes is not a bad thing. Now being an **shole all the time is another story. That person has issues too. If someone is having a bad day, they shouldn't lie about it. Doesn't mean you have to tell everyone how miserable you are. But also you shouldn't "fake" smile and say everything is just sunshine and roses when it isn't. If others can't handle that you are not in a good mood, that's their own problem. Who wants to hang around with those who live in perpetual denial all the time?This is some reporter looking for an angle to a clickbait story. I know from hard experience that unless you're in a profession like acting or maybe construction, the world generally does not find moodiness and grumpiness amusing or a particularly valuable trait...at least when they themselves are on the receiving end. If anyone else is receiving it can be amusing. But when the misanthrope turns on you...not so much. I can pretty much guarantee you it's not an appreciated trait in the PC-correct Beeb newsroom.
For the last 30 years misanthropic moodiness unintentionally became my "hobby", and it definitely doesn't pay off in today's uber-sensitve, PC office culture. Unless, of course, people see a temporary use for it (like when a PITA needs to be told where to get off, and you're the only one with the temperament or guts enough to do it), and then everyone's your friend. But after that, you're relegated to the curb again.
Personally, I'd rather work with a competent, reliable arsehole who tells people to bugger off when they need it than an incompetent, unreliable "nice" person, but most of the world doesn't feel that way anymore.
I know this might seem like it contradicts the warm, fuzzy tone of my previous posts in this thread, but it really doesn't. Having hope and deliberately trying to see the good in life has absolutely nothing to do with saying "sod off!" to someone who desperately deserves it.
Why I think it "pays" to be grumpy and bad tempered sometimes, is you are not lying to yourself. Or "stuffing" your emotions which leads to all sorts of health issues eventually. Doesn't mean that you vomit emotionally all over others. But still, there are ways to be honest without being abusive to others at the same time. I do know tho, that a lot of people really cannot handle real truth or honesty. Cuz a lot of times its blunt. They want to be coddled and have shoulders rubbed and their ears tickled instead of hearing the truth when it's necessary.
