Such_Saturation
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He himself did not hurt me, but he let me be hurt, the same as he let his mother be hurt, because there was no way to defend her.
So the problem when you react right, and that it touches others, they do not see that the past hurts them, and they turn to YOU. In the present, you are the one who makes a difference and make the pain shows up.
Am I crazy to think he is hypothyroid though doctors say... Was I rude and overreacting when... Was it an excess to say...
Strange enough, you think I did not control and yelled, and anybody would have seen a normal conversation, as I just said we must stop in the village with the car. I just told my needs with a normal voice, though assertive and letting no place to a no.in perfect control of how you express yourself? If you could take back time and not yell,
Your point,Ivysaur?
Your point,Ivysaur?
You have emotions, and then you have emotions about those emotions, and then about those emotions.I'm not sure which emotions you're referring to
The holy man has something else IMO, he can stand the first emotion, so there is no need to go to the mix of emotion and thinking about it.There is an idea that a holy man is not one that is without anger, or shame, or lust, but one that feels such emotions immediately, without shame
You feel lust, then feel shame about the lust, then feel anger about the shame, and then you hate the opposite sex.
If you can contain the emotion as a LARGE saucepan contains the milk, then nothing goes over board.
When things go overboard, come the secondary emotions.
Didn't you also quote Peter Levine that trauma lies not in the event, but in the corresponding activation of the nervous system? A tiger or a mouse, doesn't matter if your legs are shaking.
Words hurt. Actions hurt. Conflicts hurt. Bad environments hurt. Harmful beliefs hurt. Pointless traditions hurt. There are so many things a human being can be sensitive to. But whatever the case is, shaming people for being sensitive will not make them more robust. "Toughen up" may be a well-meaning suggestion, but utterly useless for the sensitive person.
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Couldn't agree more. Well stated.In the end this is the same problem: make you think that YOU have a problem, and that YOU overreact to a situation! Just meditate please!
Problem: this leads to dissociation, just because you treat your nervous system while you are not OUT of the damage that is done to you. You can nicely self-regulate, but in the end nobody stops the big boat nor turn its driving wheel.
This touches on the issue of karma- ie if we perform an act in the expectation of its karmic fruit (I did a good thing, so I am entitled to recieve a good reward from it) we will come away with the idea that "we are owed one by the universe".
In the end- whether the list of things that you have enumerated hurts or not depends utterly on our expectations that the universe is a reasonable place where we will be duly rewarded for our good deeds --(THIS LIFETIME).
I suspect that us highly sensitive persons need to think of being "highly sensitive" as being possessed of a painful and maladaptive trait, which is a result of early childhood experience which did not equip us to self regulate in a way that allows us to function competitively in a greater outside world.