Porn Addiction / Sex Addiction

[Summer]

You’re not going to get anywhere looking for “peatish” ways (hormone supplementation) of changing your habits. It’s all lifestyle. Give any group at any period in time access to pornography like we have today and you’d see the exact same addictions. It has become a literal weapon used to weaken society.

 

[Yody]

why is it unhealthy?
Your body doesn't see the difference if you fck a girl or fcking your left/right hand.
The same with sports. You body doesn't now the difference between doing heavy labor work or lifting weights.
there are also no study's thats says porn is unhealthy.
Men are programmed to replicate themselves as much as possible in order to survive. its our instincts.
So lots of testosterone/libido and having the urge to have lot of sex/porn is healthy sign.
You see when this is going down (as with older men) health complications increase...

It's the oxytocin release with a partner that helps to nullify the prolactin spike after an orgasm. After orgasm from sex I am relaxed and satisfied, whereas any orgasm from masturbation for me yields instant disappointment.

I've read elsewhere that it's metabolically and hormonally optimal for females to just cum all the time (with a partner,) and for a male it's more like once a week.

 

[Frankdee20]

Excessive Pornography is absolutely detrimental to reward pathways in the brain, and over time, one cannot get aroused from real life scenarios, just pornography, because you will constantly seek out higher thresholds of fantasy to turn you on

 

[PeatBull]

Oh boy, I have that problem...sometimes i manage to stay sober for weeks, but with this lockdowns and ***t...
By the way, is my first message, nice forum you have in here

 

[theantagonist]

Any advice on blocking porn?

I found a browser extension called LeechBlock and I highly recommend it. I no longer watch porn on my computer because of it. It lets you apply many different kinds of blocking filters and choose what specific sites you want to block. If you apply a lot of different blocking filters, it's too much of a hassle to turn them all off. I also use it to apply a black & white filter to YouTube so that it's less flashy and addicting.

I'm still having problems with my iPhone. I can only use the phones "content & privacy restriction settings". These settings are quite simple and easy to turn off. I'm guessing there's nothing else iPhone users can do to block porn. This makes me want to switch to Android. Are there a lot more options with Android for blocking porn using apps and settings? Thanks.

Qustodio + Stayfocusd

 

[johnsmith]

Qustodio + Stayfocusd

Interesting, I've never heard of those apps. It looks like Stayfocusd app can even block specific keyword searches? Impressive.

Do you have any opinions about the website/application blocking app called "Freedom"? Chris Bailey highly recommends it in his book "Hyperfocus" as an expensive premium app that's well worth it's price. I purchased a lifetime subscription for it several months ago and definitely don't regret doing so.

Sidenote: Freedom app claims that you pay top dollar for it largely because they don't do any nefarious things with the data that these apps could easily collect off of you.

 

[theantagonist]

Interesting, I've never heard of those apps. It looks like Stayfocusd app can even block specific keyword searches? Impressive.

Do you have any opinions on the website/application blocking app called "Freedom"? Chris Bailey highly recommends it in his book "Hyperfocus" as an expensive premium app for the job that's well worth it's price. I purchased a lifetime subscription for it several months ago and definitely don't regret doing so.

Sidenote: Freedom app claims that you pay top dollar for it largely because they don't do any nefarious things with the data that these apps could easily collect off of you.

I love stay focusd. Primarily because you can block access to changing your stay focusd settings. That way you can only change them on specific times, this prevents you from being an ***hole to yourself and change it whenever you want.

+ it limits but not eliminates. You can put a 5 min max limit per 30 min on browing or social media. This allows you on these forms of media, but you don't lose excessive time. You can block access to most apps to prevent scrolling in bed in the morning. It has gotten me out of many jams.

I once tried the freedom app (premium) i cancelled it pretty quickly. can't remember why, probably didn't see much added value.

And qustodio, you can log in with different mail addresses, to work around the 1 device limit for the free version. Also has an android and iphone app

 

[theantagonist]

Oh boy, I have that problem...sometimes i manage to stay sober for weeks, but with this lockdowns and ***t...
By the way, is my first message, nice forum you have here

Mister worldwide! Must be the best Peat username, i've seen so far

 

[PeatBull]

Mister worldwide! Must be the best Peat username, i've seen so far

Based as ****.

 

[Jib]

Excessive Pornography is absolutely detrimental to reward pathways in the brain, and over time, one cannot get aroused from real life scenarios, just pornography, because you will constantly seek out higher thresholds of fantasy to turn you on

My experience is different, though I think porn is still extremely detrimental and addictive. My first relationship was at 26 years old, after a lifetime of ejaculating to porn on average 1 to 3 times a day. I had absolutely zero issues from day one with my ex girlfriend as far as arousal and sex went. I never one time had an issue getting aroused in the 4 years we were 'officially' together.

I continued using porn (behind her back) in the relationship, which ultimately led to the downfall of it when she took my phone and found porn in my browser history after I had lied about using it. She thought porn was cheating. Every one of my friends thought she was crazy, people I talked to online thought she was crazy. Long story short: if I could go back and do it all over again, I would have quit. I would have resisted the urges. I don't think she's crazy and in hindsight I can see that I was brainwashed into thinking that my behavior was OK. And I deeply regret losing a relationship with a woman who sees porn as destructive and did not use it herself, which is something that's getting harder and harder to find in this day and age.

The insanity? I was suicidal before having a girlfriend. I had never had sex, thought I never would, and thought I was going to be jerking off to porn for the rest of my life. For the first months we were together, I thought I had quit porn. I had been wanting to quit, and I told her I had quit. Then as the relationship started getting a little bumpy, I retreated more and more to using porn.

It wasn't that I didn't care. It wasn't that I didn't love her or wasn't physically attracted to her. I was extremely in love with her and extremely attracted to her. However, porn is addictive. And I was ignorant of that fact at the time. That's the simple reality.

Porn did not affect my sexual functioning at all. Not in the slightest. I had days where I would use porn for quick "stress relief" and then later in the day have sex with my girlfriend and everything would be fine. No issues functioning at all. However, when she asked me about it later, and I admitted that I had also used porn on the same days we'd had sex (sometimes), she further lost it. Could not cope with it.

And I was not sympathetic to her at all. I was vindictive and resentful because I was addicted and felt like I had a right to be addicted. Because at the time, I didn't know I was addicted. Everyone simply reassured me that using porn was normal and healthy and she was insane for treating me like this. How wrong they were. The irony is over the past several years since that relationship ended I've been alone and have forgotten what it feels like to be in love. I allowed an addiction to take that away from me.

Why? I didn't see it as an addiction. I didn't see my behavior as a problem. So the damage from porn is not limited to sexual function. In my case, it did not affect my sexual functioning at all.

But if you're with a partner who tells you they're hurt that you're using porn, and your response is to feel like they're crazy, and invalidate them, because everyone else is telling you they SHOULDN'T feel bad -- that's an addiction. It's a publicly endorsed addiction.

I have been accountable for my actions and apologized numerous times. And tried to explain myself. I am deeply resentful of the people who told me my girlfriend was crazy and that I was doing nothing wrong. Not a single person told me porn was addictive and that it was understandable why my girlfriend was so hurt. Everyone simply said "It's not real" and "porn isn't cheating" and just made my ex out to seem crazy. I ended up taking on that attitude and it led to endless arguments and ultimately the end of the relationship.

If I was going to advise someone in my situation, I would absolutely tell them to quit porn. That they had to. Give their brain a chance to heal. Especially when you have someone available who wants to have sex with you. That's how I know porn is addictive: I was ready to commit suicide over a lack of sex, and the belief that I would be jerking off to porn alone for the rest of my life.

When I finally found a partner to have sex with? I kept using porn and it destroyed the relationship. That's the insanity of it. Sexual function is not the only metric of addiction and I am living proof that porn is still toxic and addictive even if it has no effect on your sexual functioning.

 

[Explorer]

My streaks are normally 10 days (min) till up to 60 days (max) but it varies. In summer it's as expected WAY easier (probably less stress hormones) to maintain a longer streak, but this is not my goal. I want to lose that desire to watch it all together because I know how FANTASTIC I feel on longer streaks. I am not declined to be celibate for many months or even for a full year. There is almost no desire to masturbate without porn or any other stimulations. The desire comes mainly from stress like little sleep, boredom, etc. So I believe my stress response is a total mess.

Oxytocin is often mentioned (being social and so on) but this isn't that important at least thats what I learned in all these years.

Are you sure that you just do not have the Post Orgasmic Illness Syndrome?