Move to the city or country

[Herbie]

I'm in a situation where I need to move and weighing up where to go.

I'm either going to go to Sydney Australia and get an apartment as close to the cbd as possible due to more choice of places to work which is important for me and better social opportunities. Cons are polution, traffic, neighbours, noise.

Or move to a country town with 20k people. Pros are I can buy a house and have a garden and fresh air and nature. Cons are might get stuck working with people I don't want to. Once one gets out of Sydney or Melbourne people can be perochial and don't accept outsiders and would be a loner which is a concern especially not having a wife and kids. I'm not sure if the USA is like this too.

I'm single, mid thirties, what would you do?

 

[iLoveSugar]

Country over city all day, everyday imo.

 

[Herbie]

@iLoveSugar what's your reasoning? Which country do you live in?

 

[Jennifer]

I'm in a situation where I need to move and weighing up where to go.

I'm either going to go to Sydney Australia and get an apartment as close to the cbd as possible due to more choice of places to work which is important for me and better social opportunities. Cons are polution, traffic, neighbours, noise.

Or move to a country town with 20k people. Pros are I can buy a house and have a garden and fresh air and nature. Cons are might get stuck working with people I don't want to. Once one gets out of Sydney or Melbourne people can be perochial and don't accept outsiders and would be a loner which is a concern especially not having a wife and kids. I'm not sure if the USA is like this too.

I'm single, mid thirties, what would you do?

Do you thrive more in social settings, being alone or somewhere between the two? If social settings, I would pick the city, if alone, I would pick the country and if somewhere between the two, I would find a place right on the outskirts of the city so that I could meet up with people I resonate with regularly because the internet and phone aren’t a replacement for in person connections, IME. I do alone well, but still need to connect with others IRL to thrive. I live in the woods, but I’m only a few minutes from town and less than ten minutes from the city so if I start to feel too isolated, it’s only a short distance to renew my sanity.

 

[JudiBlueHen]

You will probably have many more job choices in a city. Depends on what type of work you are looking for. And what type of friends. I agree that small towns can be cliquish, but the main question is: will you be bored in a small town? You can make friends or at least acquaintances through work.
I think it depends on what motivates you. I love the scenery and cleaner air and possible charm of small towns but I am not motivated to be a gardener or landscaper (though I have tried). So sorry, that's no help at all!

 

[JamesGatz]

If it was me I would choose the country

I think living in a city, I get to meet a lot of people but they're all the worst kind of people and I end up getting into many fights and confrontations with many of these people even if I'm minding my own business

I'm moving to the Country and even though I'll be more lonely, I'm confident the type of people I meet will be people I like a lot more.

Country people are a lot less in number and defensive true (I interpret as healthier so more territorial/defensive), but at least they are people I can have a conversation with and are more trustworthy/under less stress

 

[baron]

EMF in cities is literally unbearable. Everyone thinks you can push through it, you can't if you already have some other health issue. It's really hard to get any work done when you can feel your cells uptaking calcium and dying in mass numbers.

 

[Herbie]

@Jennifer I enjoy solitude but also socialising aswell, I really like meeting new people. I don't use social media becides this forum which I don't really use much.

That sounds like a nice situation you have. The problem with Australia is that the country towns are like West Virginia with meth and displaced indigenous people and old people. Usually the only place to live is on small blocks of land in the town or big farms. There isn't that nice in between which I know exists in the USA.

 

[Herbie]

@JudiBlueHen well I don't think I'd get bored anywhere. I am a car mechanic, most go in the mines as mechanics but I won't because I have to get x ray to pass medical and have a spinal injury and refuse to work 12 hour night shifts. The city is good because there are more jobs for mechanics so I can easily quit if I don't like management.

 

[Herbie]

@JamesGatz that's interesting, I worked in a small town in England. The mechanics were as you described but I really liked and respected them.

What about women? I've seen the government statistics. The women get educated than go to the city for jobs, the men do trades and stay in the regional areas, creates an abundance of single childless women in the city and married with kids in the country towns.

 

[supercoolguy]

Risk is risk. Id take the House in the Country. or Hve some fun in the City first, Negotioate a shorter term lease on the Apt. then youre able to leave on shorter notice if you want a change.

 

[Herbie]

@supercoolguy Australia has turned into Sanfranciso in regards to rent. I am going to buy a place so its a big commitment for me, I've been moving place to place every 2 years for a while now.

 

[Herbie]

@baron do you take calcium chanel blocking things?

 

[charlie]

Country all the way. But close enough to the city for supplies.

 

[Herbie]

@charlie Thanks Charlie

 

[Herbie]

@JamesGatz I drove to Sydney today to look at apartments. Everyone I saw walking on the sidewalk was unhealthy and some mentally ill people.

 

[Jayvee]

Not from Australia but I lived in Sydney and its definitely somewhere where you can have best of both worlds. The trains are super convenient. One of the best cities I have lived in. I personally thrive in social areas but with a sense of community, you'd get this in a Sydney suburb easy!

 

[Herbie]

@Jayvee thanks for the Reply, I was born in Darlinghurst but was raised on the central coast and later lived in Newcastle and lived in Adelaide. Adelaide is even better for livable city's. Whenever I got to USA or Europe when I fly back to Sydney it feels like a big town.

Which other citys have you lived in for comparison?

 

[Herbie]

Updating the thread, last weekend I drove to Sydney and found that the units which were very small and next to major roads

This weekend I drove to the highest altitude small towns in my state to check it out. I liked the scenery. I like that it doesn't get hot and humid in the summer time.

 

[baron]

@baron do you take calcium chanel blocking things?

I take cypro, mag bicarb, progesterone.