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LoL. Goals of the form "don't do this" are questionable to me. What happens when you do everything else the same as before and just try to stop doing one thing without any replacement? Doesn't make much sense to me.
I agree with you ,but I just think there is something wrong with the person who maturbates , and also masturbating process is something that is not healthy , its not good for nervous system,its not a natural thing to do.
I think of it as "using" your body. When someone is really into running, for example, they "use" their body that way. If they run a lot it will cause damage, faster aging and health problems and stuff like that. But, if they love running, how do you tell them they are using their body incorrectly? If you can live 20 years longer, and with little or no degenerative disease, by eating a very specific diet and living in a CO2 bubble and never stressing your body, is that really living? I'm not saying people addicted to masturbation or sex or porn or w/e is a good thing, just that it's a live question. Not all of these people are going to replace those activities with dance or theater going or writing a manuscript, many will just sit around being depressed and thinking about the thing they feel addicted to but decided they aren't doing anymore all day.
That's a good point, especially if you view your current activities as a biological urge to achieve homeostasis (masturbation raises dopamine and lowers cortisol.) Progesterone takes away addictive tendencies in myself, and I think elevated cortisol is partly to blame.
I like your perspective regarding addictions. Very true. Though the terrible thing about addiction is that it creates a greater void between fantasy and reality. That is when one embraces such fantasies receptors down-regulate to fit the fantasy. This makes the reality ever more non satisfactory.
It is extremely difficult to redirect the sexual energy to other activities. Most of the time it just stays sexual energy which makes the effort counterproductive. But if you can use the built up sexual energy (such as at the gym) you'll yield great results.
I feel best when I don't fap at all but if you have a very healthy system with plenty of energy production you might be able to get away with every 3-4 days. I don't know if I would consider this beneficial but certainly not detrimental. If your system is so healthy, building up more energy could be very beneficial (or maybe overwhelming).
Yeah; I think the fantasy of aspect of pornography and plain masturbation aren't really comparable. With masturbation, there's fantaziation, but it's not manifested visually, and I feel fine within 24-48 hours, but with pornography, it takes days up to a week or two to get back to baseline
i think the initial phase is like this- the hypersensitivity phase, then the libido actually normalizes, i somehow once reached 40 days and suprisingly there were no/little urges, mind was extremely calm and aware but again started watching stuff due to arrogance and here i am again at 4-5 days. The taste for extreme stuff went away, that i thank this for that. Next time onwards i would be very wise from using(abusing) my reward system with high speed internet p**n ( let's say i abused my system in the past)
Doesn't sound too bad.
The key to NoFap: have sex instead.
in the beginning i replaced it with travelling , if you do it for ~ 30 days, the urges simply go away or may be i was flatlined
