Guys hi,
I have a problem. Basically it's very difficult for me to relax, socialize, relate to others. Partly because of that my social life is pretty much none existent now.
If there is some kind of competition involved in socializing - let's say playing sports - i am great at that! I am very competitive person and right a way i understand what to do. But right after the competition part stops, people start talking, joking - i got lost right a way. Bored, anxious, etc.
Also i am afraid to hit on girls. If girl won't make steps and show that she is VERY VERY interested i won't move. So i am thinking maybe i have low T. However remember from teenage years in situations when some bully/bullies were trying to attack my friends - i was always first to act, and all my friends/colleagues know me as the guy to solve this kind of situations. I even remember my much stronger physically friend got attacked by bullies and i was the one to act - he himself submitted a bit. Telling this not to brag, just to explain that in conflict situations i hardly ever afraid, it's just in social ones i afraid. Also i am much eager to help my friends than myself. And in general it's very hard for me to accept help from anyone.
Please advise. I know ideally i should try to solve this naturally. But it does not work. I tried everything for years! - diet, meditation, working out, sun, less computer time - not results.
I have a problem. Basically it's very difficult for me to relax, socialize, relate to others. Partly because of that my social life is pretty much none existent now.
If there is some kind of competition involved in socializing - let's say playing sports - i am great at that! I am very competitive person and right a way i understand what to do. But right after the competition part stops, people start talking, joking - i got lost right a way. Bored, anxious, etc.
Also i am afraid to hit on girls. If girl won't make steps and show that she is VERY VERY interested i won't move. So i am thinking maybe i have low T. However remember from teenage years in situations when some bully/bullies were trying to attack my friends - i was always first to act, and all my friends/colleagues know me as the guy to solve this kind of situations. I even remember my much stronger physically friend got attacked by bullies and i was the one to act - he himself submitted a bit. Telling this not to brag, just to explain that in conflict situations i hardly ever afraid, it's just in social ones i afraid. Also i am much eager to help my friends than myself. And in general it's very hard for me to accept help from anyone.
Please advise. I know ideally i should try to solve this naturally. But it does not work. I tried everything for years! - diet, meditation, working out, sun, less computer time - not results.