encerent
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Help!!!
How do you bounce back from a bad fight with a significant other, friend or co-worker?
I want to get back to a healthy state where I can sleep soundly, eat heartily and enjoy the summer. But all I'm doing replaying the argument in my head, endlessly coming up with counter-arguments I should have said (and want to say the next best chance I get!).
I'm already losing sleep doing this pointless playback, obsessing how I was so right and how I should have said this and that to smash their argument to bits in the moment.
Of course the passing of time is the surest remedy for these things. But I don't want to be in a zombie/low metabolism state for days, which will be re-enforced by poor sleep and poor metabolic habits.
In this case right now, I guess we've made up to some extent. But I still can't get over it all. I'm pathologically playing the argument over and over still, imagining perfect responses I should have, could have said. How do I let go faster and move on as the other person apparently has?
I'm trying to imagine their point of view. But I can only see how they're so dumb and I'm so right and it's all their fault. I'm still stuck in the argument and overstimulated. How do I knock myself down?
How do you bounce back from a bad fight with a significant other, friend or co-worker?
I want to get back to a healthy state where I can sleep soundly, eat heartily and enjoy the summer. But all I'm doing replaying the argument in my head, endlessly coming up with counter-arguments I should have said (and want to say the next best chance I get!).
I'm already losing sleep doing this pointless playback, obsessing how I was so right and how I should have said this and that to smash their argument to bits in the moment.
Of course the passing of time is the surest remedy for these things. But I don't want to be in a zombie/low metabolism state for days, which will be re-enforced by poor sleep and poor metabolic habits.
In this case right now, I guess we've made up to some extent. But I still can't get over it all. I'm pathologically playing the argument over and over still, imagining perfect responses I should have, could have said. How do I let go faster and move on as the other person apparently has?
I'm trying to imagine their point of view. But I can only see how they're so dumb and I'm so right and it's all their fault. I'm still stuck in the argument and overstimulated. How do I knock myself down?