Jib
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- Mar 20, 2013
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I'm experiencing this lately.
I'll definitely vouch for sexual arousal being a stressor. Honestly, being in love seems like a stressor too. A huge one. An absolutely tremendous one. One of the biggest there is. I swear, being in love is like having worse brain function than a drug addict. I've been there done that. No interest in going back. "In love" just means prolonged infatuation. You're already "in love" when you have a thing for some girl. I don't want to do that anymore.
I love my ex, for example, but I'm not in love with her. I love her by wanting the best for her. Who she is as a person. But I hardly ever think about her anymore. I have love for her. But I'm not in love with her. My mind doesn't replay loops about her all the time anymore, like it did when I was "in love." We're still the same people we were back then. Just now, it's been a while since detoxing from the love drug. The only difference was being under the influence of a drug.
And I am absolutely not interested in being in love with anyone else ever again for as long as I live. I'm done with it. I am not bitter at all. It's genuinely, I simply don't want to experience that. I've had my fill of it. More than my fill. It's like eating the same thing every day for a month and then you get so sick of it you never want to even look at it again.
Mastery over sexual urges is an interesting topic. That's been my focus lately. Avoiding them completely one level. Being able to experience them, but not be a slave to them. That is a level far beyond that. Right now I'm at the bottom of the mountain looking up.
I'll definitely vouch for sexual arousal being a stressor. Honestly, being in love seems like a stressor too. A huge one. An absolutely tremendous one. One of the biggest there is. I swear, being in love is like having worse brain function than a drug addict. I've been there done that. No interest in going back. "In love" just means prolonged infatuation. You're already "in love" when you have a thing for some girl. I don't want to do that anymore.
I love my ex, for example, but I'm not in love with her. I love her by wanting the best for her. Who she is as a person. But I hardly ever think about her anymore. I have love for her. But I'm not in love with her. My mind doesn't replay loops about her all the time anymore, like it did when I was "in love." We're still the same people we were back then. Just now, it's been a while since detoxing from the love drug. The only difference was being under the influence of a drug.
And I am absolutely not interested in being in love with anyone else ever again for as long as I live. I'm done with it. I am not bitter at all. It's genuinely, I simply don't want to experience that. I've had my fill of it. More than my fill. It's like eating the same thing every day for a month and then you get so sick of it you never want to even look at it again.
Mastery over sexual urges is an interesting topic. That's been my focus lately. Avoiding them completely one level. Being able to experience them, but not be a slave to them. That is a level far beyond that. Right now I'm at the bottom of the mountain looking up.