thebigpeatowski
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But anyway my choices along the way blessed me with two beautiful children so I'm grateful.
I'm very introverted and need a lot of downtime...
This is me EXACTLY...I married too young (barely 21), had NO idea what I was getting in to. I had a very hard time reading people (men in particular) and I didn't really realize that people weren't always what they portrayed themselves to be....I found this to be especially true in among religious fundamentalists, as ironic as that is. But, like you, I got two fabulous kids out of the whole ordeal and MANY (hard) lessons learned.
I too need tons of downtime, that's precisely why I'm self-employed (does not work well with others) ha ha. I have to mentally prepare myself for family gatherings, reunions and even just lunch with a girlfriend.
Human beings fascinate me, I could people watch for hours, but I find daily face-to-face interaction utterly exhausting. Looking back upon this fact makes me wonder how much of my poor health in previous decades was due to the fact that I did not overtly recognize this about me...or if I did, I certainly didn't manage it very well.
My boys each moved out on their own when they were 19 years old....I'll never forget what my oldest said to me "I love you and everything mom, but I gotta go!" And with that he packed up stuff and moved into an apartment two blocks away. My younger boy followed in his brother's footsteps as soon as he turned 19 as well.
As soon as the house was empty, I began my own personal healing journey.....wished I would have taken better care of myself earlier on.