michael94
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When put in uncomfortable and unfair positions
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YesYeah, I think it is an "adult" thing, meaning it's something that isn't intuitive. I would say it has to do with lower metabolism, which leaves less energy to be used with important things, such as keeping boundaries. If you think about it, it seems like something a serotonergic person would do, that is, being passive and just accepting things as they are instead of taking a chance to change them.
In general though I think a bit more rudeness would make the world a better place
It is really aspergian isn’t itlol, at least in the short termYES! Get rid of your negative emotions on the spot when they are still relatively mild as opposed to being overly polite, letting things fester inside you, and then becoming some twisted version of your former self. Not to mention it would make conversations much less robotic. But unfortunately, this is a pretty Aspergian way of looking at things and will not happen in reality.
Some kids have neither politeness nor negative emotions. One of my nieces (a toddler now) never cried, hit, lost her temper or anything like that, but she never played along with courtesies. On the other end of the spectrum, pun unintended, some children have severe behavioral problems and even attack their parents with weapons.YES! Get rid of your negative emotions on the spot when they are still relatively mild as opposed to being overly polite, letting things fester inside you, and then becoming some twisted version of your former self. Not to mention it would make conversations much less robotic. But unfortunately, this is a pretty Aspergian way of looking at things and will not happen in reality.
It's human nature.And yea, I live in an undeveloped country where being rude is normal, and being polite is something that people here dont know... so we get bar fights, knife stabs, there is no consensus, no democracy, no debate, no accepting of different views, no open-minded, people are rude in everyday behavior (in stores, in parks, in sports), they dont back up of being racist or offending people just like that (being rude) :) i visited more polite countries and the difference is HUGEEEE
Yes and no, there are a lot of undeveloped countries or primitive cultures/countries/tribes where education and enforcement isnt strong, but they have some simple and friendly values so they are not rude... often capitalism, materialism, ambition and a self centered ego isnt strong in those cultures...It's human nature.
It takes lot's of social conditioning and education to change it.
And either social or legal consequences to enforce it.
Yea, good point... another factor is that we accepted the materialist lifestyle and values, but we are still poor, so there is an everyday problem, stress and conflict... we are programed to make money, but in our country there isnt trully an oportunity to make money... so we get super rude hahaSo maybe it's like they are halfway into being like modern countries, meaning materialism is starting to be implemented, but the education isn't there to restrain and control the side-effects of said materialism.
Poverty is a really big source of stress, according to Ray, which makes sense, since it basically means that there isn't much security, be it against hunger, violence, homelessness, etc., which leads to an overall feeling of frustration and makes people think it's okay to be selfish. I can see how that makes people rude.
YepIt's easy to appear kind when there's no stress happening!
Chinese people in my neighborhood are rude. They blow snot out of their nose on the sidewalk and have little concern for walking into other pedestrians. I think being passive is a judeo Christian thingYes
Part of it is out of pity and not wanting to cause unnecessary suffering, which maybe children are not as capable of understanding. In general though I think a bit more rudeness would make the world a better place
Chinese people in my neighborhood are rude. They blow snot out of their nose on the sidewalk and have little concern for walking into other pedestrians. I think being passive is a judeo Christian thing
I really think there is some value in tending to bodily needs before maintaining etiquette. People should just burp when they need to. I once read that ancient Greeks used to have feasts and whoever could hold their bowels and bladders the longest was considered the most refined. Says a lot about western culture.I notice a very strong correlation between politeness and neuroticism.