Nebula
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If you're just looking for casual sexual relationships then obviously all you need is trendy good looks, some trappings of higher wealth, and a fun personality.
If you're looking for a long term relationship then women need you to be a reliable source of physical, emotional, and spiritual comfort and intimacy. Women can get the thrill of a new relationship or sex partner if they really want it, but for a long term relationship they need a man who is strongly dedicated to a lifetime of constantly working towards goals in all the meaningful areas of life, including continually finding new ways to strengthen their relationship.
I think most men should be thinking about building and belonging to positive brotherhoods before attempting to have a long term relationship. Women are very perceptive of who a man's friends are. A man with no or few friends is a major red flag to most women. While a man who is respected by a strong network of men dedicated to uplifting each other to having successful lives is something that helps women to trust a man much easier to commit to a long term relationship.
None of this is particularly natural. Its a cultural model that civilizations stumbled on as a way to stabilize society and relationships between men and women to form stable pair bonds and families. Naturally humans are usually hypergamous and polygynists. But letting those tendencies rule social norms doesn't make for a very stable society and life though.
If you're looking for a long term relationship then women need you to be a reliable source of physical, emotional, and spiritual comfort and intimacy. Women can get the thrill of a new relationship or sex partner if they really want it, but for a long term relationship they need a man who is strongly dedicated to a lifetime of constantly working towards goals in all the meaningful areas of life, including continually finding new ways to strengthen their relationship.
I think most men should be thinking about building and belonging to positive brotherhoods before attempting to have a long term relationship. Women are very perceptive of who a man's friends are. A man with no or few friends is a major red flag to most women. While a man who is respected by a strong network of men dedicated to uplifting each other to having successful lives is something that helps women to trust a man much easier to commit to a long term relationship.
None of this is particularly natural. Its a cultural model that civilizations stumbled on as a way to stabilize society and relationships between men and women to form stable pair bonds and families. Naturally humans are usually hypergamous and polygynists. But letting those tendencies rule social norms doesn't make for a very stable society and life though.
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