What Do You Guys Think Of Masturbating And Do You Do It

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  1. Gadreel

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    I completed a 100+ day streak of no fap then yesterday i was worried i wasnt getting hard as I use to so i fapped 4. Times with porn it seemed to make things more hard down there and hang lower now that failed how many days to fix the damages I've caused any suppliments i could take please help im feeling depressed badly i hope i didnt mess up my T / receptors has peat ever spoken on this
     
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    If you buy into the logic of Aquinas and others masturbation is a moral evil and you should avoid it. If you don't, then idk just don't let it control you.

    Either way, don't use porn and don't be surprised that your **** doesn't function normally after you don't do anything with it for over three months
     
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    Don't ejaculate 4 times in a row if it makes you feel bad. Don't do things that make you feel worse. I wish I could just jump through the computer screen and shout this at like fifty new people on this forum every day: STOP DOING THINGS THAT MAKE YOU FEEL WEAK!

    Listen to your body and use your intelligence. This isn't some platitude, this is all the wisdom you need when it comes to sexual energy. You'll likely get a lot of weird advice, here on this forum or elsewhere on the internet, but if you really take this in, you'll see that what I'm saying is true: Your body knows when it's naturally desiring the sexual release of orgasm and when it needs time to recuperate. You just have to listen. There is a natural ebb and flow to this. Yes, porn is dangerous in that sense, because if you are addicted to it, you will tend to 0ver-masturbate and then ejaculate even when your body has actually asked you to rest and conserve sexual energy. (Having a boring old wife with her curling-irons on at 7 PM and her "no-touchy-pants" on Tuesday night is also a nice, natural way to conserve sexual energy, if you're into monogamy.)

    Walk the middle path. You're clearly not a monk, so don't pretend to be one. If you're a householder, behave like one. We can't get anywhere in our lives by following a dharma that isn't our own. That's self-deception. So if you are a householder, that means enjoy ejaculation, ideally with a partner, and within reason. And if you use porn, use it judiciously and with respect.

    Your penis will work again. Your mood will improve within a couple days if you take care of your body and rest. Eat some fatty rare beef, some butter, some warm milk and raw honey, have some raw almonds if you enjoy them, and resume healthy amounts of ejaculation according to your body's natural capabilities.

    The level of nofap insanity on this forum lately is ridiculous.
     
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    Thanks for this you made a lot of sense
     
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    I try to minimise it but I am only human
     
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    I was thinking about this some more and I realized that when I start to masturbate out of compulsion rather than physiological need to release it's easy for me to stop once I notice that my body is contracting in unnatural, stressful ways (good sign of compulsive behavior conditioned by porn or addiction as opposed to natural behavior). for example I can masturbate completely relaxed and with a calm mind if i am just ending a nofap streak because I feel like it's time but if I am just doing it out of compulsion i can't do it without tensing my legs and especially my psoas muscles and a kind of frantic, unsatisfactory daydreaming or fantasizing

    Habitual behavior in the absence of addiction is another thing that's under discussed. I've been gaming excessively since 6 and acquired a porn addiction at 9 or 10 so every now and then just out of habit I'll open a tab for porn or open a game, realize I dont actually even feel like engaging in this behavior on a compulsive level and close the tab. It's kind of a weird thing to experience
     
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    Yes i felt i need a release i was horny and just broke up with a girl i was in a long distance relationship with so i felt a release would help me feel better but im not going to mess with porn no more i think its the issue
     
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    Haha the LDR thing is it's own cluster****. Tried it, would never do that again if you paid me
    Good
     
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    How was your experience
     
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    I have said this multiple times and people can think what they want, I truly feel that my body knows the difference between me ejaculating from self stimulation versus sex or having a GF..... I avoid masturbation, I get strange inflammatory symptoms and spasms and brain fog from masturnation but I can ejacluate 15 times a week from sex and it’s no issue
     
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    You probably weren't getting hard because most of the benefits of nofap tend to peak around a week. Your testosterone peeks within a week, and after about 30 days will actually start declining.

    If you aren't sexually active, it's still probably beneficial to masturbate once a week. The important thing to keep in mind is to not let it become a chronic issue.
     
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    Very bad. I dont think a single moment of it was enjoyable or pleasant
     
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    Thanks i didn't know this
     
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    I wish I had the energy and libido to masturbate, but that's far from it.
    I can go an entire month without it and not even slightly think about sex.

    However when I have a sexy girl naked in front of me who has a nice scent down there, I get rock har within three seconds and stay hard.
     
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    In terms of penile health, Obviously it's important to be sleeping and well and be in good health to induce night time erections, and once a week at least masturbate to gain a full erection, or if you a partner or FWB then more often in the week
     
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    It depends what you want out of life and your state of health. Vigorous masturbation that is more intense than normal intercourse is damaging to penis tissue. A young man in peak health can probably handle an ejaculation per day without hurting health, while someone who is hypothyroid or has other hormonal dysfunction might not be able to handle it at all. But at any age some might find it desirable to intentionally cultivate sexual energy as part of some kind of mind body practice and that usually involves restricting ejaculation to once every 1-4 weeks. Using practices like Qigong, yoga, karezza, tantra, meditation to get into a particular mind body state that generates bliss, comfidence and creativity that can be very good for pair bonding and general well being. Not desirable for everybody but I think for most it’s probably best to at least reduce ejaculation to once per week and not use any stimulation more intense than intercourse. If pornography is ever consumed it’s probably best it be infrequent and appreciation of natural beauty rather than novel bizarre fetishes from the minds of people who are not well.

    Personally I’m more on the Sexual Kung Fu path following practices that are shown in this channel.
    https://www.youtube.com/c/SexualKungFu

    I wish I would have known all this as a teenager. Sexual repression and hypersexual obsession have both been harmful in my experience. Mind body arts can make sexuality less chaotic and a lot more satisfying especially for men, making relationships much more likely to be successful.
     
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    I'll trade you a bit of that for some of my hypersexuality. Average release of once/twice per day or I get insta-blue balls.
     
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    You get that naturally, or it's after peating, after taking hormones, or else?
     
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    Wow, congrats on 100+ days. I think masturbation is awful. I only ever feel an extreme need to do it when I’m stressed or depressed.
     
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    Heres the weekly masturbation thread I almost missed it. :tearsofjoy::tearsofjoy:
     
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