Tinder is solely responsible for the incel phenomenon. With online dating apps female behavior also changed. I live on a university campus. Literally every woman takes the earliest classes possible and leaves campus before 12. No attractive one lives on campus or ever lingers around. When they go to gyms it is female only, female only social events, etc. They have turned socially avoiding men into an art. I am never in proximity to a woman of my age in my daily life. The only way to meet women as a young man now is though online dating apps, on their terms, where the competition is high, and their egos are grossly inflated (an average girl can log in to Tinder and schedule sex with a male model looking guy within minutes).
Pre-Tinder people met through social circle, events, or nightclubs. this is no longer the case.
Matches my observations. And another bane of online dating apps is that the group it caters to, whether that it is men or women, can gang up and exclude people they don't find "desirable". So, even the online dating option may not be accessible to a lot of males if they do not meet the standards of the app. Tinder already admitted to "punishing" less attractive male users and they have to pay to get "promoted" to the level others get for free. Same with Bumble.
Tinder is secretly ranking how "desirable" you are
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On a related, but a bit of a tangent note - it looks like the noise raised over the "social credit" system of China and whether to have something similar in the West is largely just that - noise. We already have that system, and the dating apps are using that plus facial recognition (to judge attractiveness) though it is not officially centralized but rather spread across 10-12 tech companies - e.g. Facebook, Google, Microsoft, Amazon, and smaller ones such as Tinder, etc. Then there are also the credit score companies and FICO is a de-facto social credit score. If you have a bad FICO, it shuts down many social/professional door. Most dating apps actually use FICO to decide if you should be given membership and then use FICO as part of their ranking system. In fact, the company Palantir has been openly advertising that they have a private, global platform that does exactly what China has officially and Palantir calls theirs the "Grid". I doubt they are the only company with such a system either.
So, the current system gives the illusion that this de-centralization and privatization is avoiding the official social credit system of China, but in reality all these companies share/buy/sell each other's data, and we know the govt agencies have a copy of all online data. The "discrimination" we see now in the dating apps is about to go mainstream and affect all other spheres of life as well.
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