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Social anxiety
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- Jan 6, 2017
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I think it is animalistic to think "at least I am not them" to push down social anxiety. I think that is ultimately not a good pathway or outlook. If we size up every other person we see as a dyadic relationship of who's better off, ranking each other in a dualistic way, to boost ourselves up, well, it starts to be pretty predatory. Or even creepy; like wanting only to surround yourself with "lesser" people only.
When people keep referring to things as a "band-aid" or temporary fix, I think 'so is eating.' Eating temporarily band-aids hunger. Yea, if I don't eat, I get hungry. If I don't do aikido, I begin to feel less disambiguated. If I don't remind myself of Heart Sutra, I get butterflies driving to aikido. If I don't keep my stress hormones in check, I stammer and feel panicky. If I don't sleep, I get tired. If I don't put on my winter coat, I will be cold outside.
A trendy thing happening in Chicago now is restaurant's having Salsa dancing clubs. I think that could be fun. It shares with aikido the practice of changing partners constantly and partnering with many strangers and trying to sync up with each other.
We call it ukemi (receiving the technique). It feels wonderful when your ukemi is right with the energy that is happening. Metaphorically, that helps maintain the coherency of me, the organism. We try to do the same thing; have pro-metabolic synced-up energy, i.e., no traffic-jams, no lingering, no gaps, not being attached to what happened a millisecond ago, not anticipating what is going to happen.
This is a good teacher trying to teach a kid how to do that: being only attached to the energy that is here in any given moment. He's keeping it simple by limiting it to the floor, one attack, one pin, but varying up other parameters according to what he thinks this student can tolerate.
I have a question for you. Can I take pregnenolone sublingually?