Cloudhands
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I am by no means saying monogamy is wrong, I'm moreso emphasizing that polyamory isn't wrong and can be quite a therapeutic and euphoric lifestyle if done right
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I think anything other than serial monogamy is degrading.
RP is saying artificial scarcity is imposed in our culture.
Polyamory implies scarcity of women, polygyny implies scarcity of men, regular marriage implies scarcity of both (the way it's done today in the sense of "settling down", in the past in rich societies marriage was something greater and not related to scarcity or property mentality).
I think anything other than serial monogamy is degrading.
RP is saying artificial scarcity is imposed in our culture.
Polyamory implies scarcity of women, polygyny implies scarcity of men, regular marriage implies scarcity of both (the way it's done today in the sense of "settling down", in the past in rich societies marriage was something greater and not related to scarcity or property mentality).
Hey man, I think you dropped your phonePolyamory is one of the most degenerate aspects of Western culture, a sign of the downfall, cultural and moral decay. Giving women unlimited sexual freedom and promoting casual sex is one of the biggest mistakes ever
How do you reconcile your rigid authoritarianism with Ray's anti-authoritarian views when you come here every day?Polyamory is one of the most degenerate aspects of Western culture, a sign of the downfall, cultural and moral decay. Giving women unlimited sexual freedom and promoting casual sex is one of the biggest mistakes ever
Can you even get a bonerPolyamory is one of the most degenerate aspects of Western culture, a sign of the downfall, cultural and moral decay. Giving women unlimited sexual freedom and promoting casual sex is one of the biggest mistakes ever
Well, don't leave us hanging . . .Kinda off topic here but does Ray Peat believe in a sort of Darwinian evolution model?
Disregard. I found my answer
I think that we are missing the core principle of what Ray stated (which was beautifully stated): "artificial scarcity".
What is scarce? Make a list of actual things and you will be wrong. Not actual things like gold but things that matter independent of symbols and meanings. Love, nourishment, happiness, labor, etc. For eons authorities have pretended that those are scarce and have convinced everybody else that they are. Why? So that they may wield them. No, not to get laid more, eat more food, or drive fancy cars (those are side effects). No, in order to . . . have authority. Gender-wise, this translates into control of women's bodies. Turn them into commodities. I have the authority to command the finest women to bear my progeny. To prohibit those who threaten my authority from reproducing. To prohibit activities that undermine my authority (like casual sex, homosexuality, etc).
It doesn't matter if someone is attractive (see Weinstein, Harvey). And none of this negates any kind of willful monogamy. But the core of this is authoritarianism. "Scarcity" invites control. Which creates authority. Which replicates itself structurally throughout the system and works its way into all of the nooks and crannies.
Bro BingDing, your interpretation was exactly as mine was. Monogamy is okay as long as it isnt driven by the necessity of being monogomous. Aka if it happens organically its awesome, but if you do it out of fear of lacking resources, fear of being alone, fear pf being weak etc then it will not give the organism a creative sense of love and happiness. The idea that one kind of dating is good and another is bad is authoritative. You can be happy under any kind of relationship as long as its based on love. Im personally polyamorous and i dont have much more sex than someone who isnt, and i appreciate the variation in people im interacting with on an emotional and intimate levelThat is spot on, @managing From what I've read the earliest models of human society were the "big man" idea, where a person (man) acquired an abundance of some resource and gave it to others, creating a debt to the big man. The debt evolved into a negotiable instrument with the implication that the big man could dictate future terms, i. e. had authority over others. This evolved into civil societies, then city states, and then priests, kings, and countries. It was all about power and authority.
I understood RP's answer immediately and was encouraged by it. Like I saw a rat climbing out of the water and thought maybe I can do it, too!
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Have you seen polyamourous couples? It's usually 3 ugly soyboys and one obese woman. But what you're saying is true for promiscuity in general, not polyamory, which is being in a (semi)comitted relationship with multiple people.well, if you are unattractive you better have a negative view on polyamory, and if you are attractive, you might benefit from a positive view on it (in todays society)
Gotta disagree with Peat on this too. Also women today are way less happy than in the past even though they are "sexually liberated". If Peat was right women who have lot's of partners would be more happy, but it's the opposite.from a biological view, men are much larger than women, and the bigger disparity between the body size of the sexes, the less monogamous.
On the other hand, women have hidden ovulation for a reason. And we have pair bonding strongly. So I think those are all biological and not simply constructs of an oppressive culture, as Dr. Peat seems to think.
Also men have large penises relative to body mass, in comparison to other animals, and small testicles. Penis size is probably there for competition purposes (Dr. Peat doesn't like competition and thinks that nature isn't competitive) with other men's sperm, but small testicles indicate the opposite.
So it is quite confusing and nobody really knows anything.
Edited to add: It is evident to me that men and women are built for sexual pleasure to be fundamental to our lives and our wellbeing. It isn't for reproduction solely, it is for our pleasure and it is one of the great wonderful things about life and I think Dr. Peat does appreciate this!