Premature ejaculation: the ultimate guide to fix it for good

[Hans]

Premature ejaculation: the ultimate guide to fix it for good » TESTONATION

Do you suffer from premature ejaculation. This is the ultimate guide on how to fix it with diet, techniques and supplements.

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Read to the end. I have a great podcast with Eric Everhard in there where he gives a boatload of amazing tactics for PE. The podcast is 1h long, but trust me, it's amazing.
If you found this article helpful or think it will help others, please share where you can. :)

What worked the best for you?

 

[A-Tim]

Premature ejaculation: the ultimate guide to fix it for good » TESTONATION

Do you suffer from premature ejaculation. This is the ultimate guide on how to fix it with diet, techniques and supplements.

men-elite.com

Read to the end. I have a great podcast with Eric Everhard in there where he gives a boatload of amazing tactics for PE. The podcast is 1h long, but trust me, it's amazing.
If you found this article helpful or think it will help others, please share where you can. :)

What worked the best for you?

Good article. My two cents:
I had prem ejac when I was a teen through to early 20's. I found it was almost entirely anxiety driven. I resolved it without needing to think about things in terms of supplements/drugs/hormones.

For someone in a similar situation, and who'd rather stay away from exogenous substances, or doesn't find thinking about the issue in terms of biochemistry helpful, I would suggest doing one of two things, preferably both:

1) Focus on trying to be open and honest with yourself, confronting the anxiety and whicever fears might lie behind it. There are many methods for working with anxiety - a google search will find them.

2) Have more sex. Once you have sex regularly, with someone who accepts you for who you are, the anxiety tends to dissolve naturally. The premature ejaculation typically goes away with the anxiety. Focus on a relationship rather than a string of short term playthings. It usually means more frequent sex and it's healthier for your soul.

(2) is a pretty unsophisticated solution, but don't discount it. Literally having regular sex solves this problem in most cases. The problem with it is you have a chicken-egg sitation. You want to have sex regularly, but you're embarassed about cumming quickly, so you avoid situations that'll lead to sex. I suggest you be radically honest. Have sex, if you cum really fast, make a joke about it rather than pretend it didn't happen. Wait an hour, then go again. In the mean time, give her a good time - maybe foreplay, a massage, a back scratch. If she's mean or rude about it, just move onto the next person. Eventually you'll stumble across someone who is compassionate enough with you to work through the awkward beginning stage.

 

[Hans]

Good article. My two cents:
I had prem ejac when I was a teen through to early 20's. I found it was almost entirely anxiety driven. I resolved it without needing to think about things in terms of supplements/drugs/hormones.

For someone in a similar situation, and who'd rather stay away from exogenous substances, or doesn't find thinking about the issue in terms of biochemistry helpful, I would suggest doing one of two things, preferably both:

1) Focus on trying to be open and honest with yourself, confronting the anxiety and whicever fears might lie behind it. There are many methods for working with anxiety - a google search will find them.

2) Have more sex. Once you have sex regularly, with someone who accepts you for who you are, the anxiety tends to dissolve naturally. The premature ejaculation typically goes away with the anxiety. Focus on a relationship rather than a string of short term playthings. It usually means more frequent sex and it's healthier for your soul.

(2) is a pretty unsophisticated solution, but don't discount it. Literally having regular sex solves this problem in most cases. The problem with it is you have a chicken-egg sitation. You want to have sex regularly, but you're embarassed about cumming quickly, so you avoid situations that'll lead to sex. I suggest you be radically honest. Have sex, if you cum really fast, make a joke about it rather than pretend it didn't happen. Wait an hour, then go again. In the mean time, give her a good time - maybe foreplay, a massage, a back scratch. If she's mean or rude about it, just move onto the next person. Eventually you'll stumble across someone who is compassionate enough with you to work through the awkward beginning stage.

Thanks for sharing. I agree that a lot of men have PE due to anxiety. But more sexual experience doesn't always resolve the PE.

I too had anxiety at first but once that went away (with more sexual experience) I still had PE.The reason why most people have anxiety in the first place is mainly due to biochemistry. Meaning low GABA, high adrenaline and glutamate, etc. That's why substances like zinc, magnesium, theanine, etc., help with both anxiety and PE.
What really helped me gain control of my ejaculation was things that reduced excitation, such as taurine, magnesium, GABA, etc., as well as techniques. I used to have zero technique at first, but I quickly learned how to implement a variety of tricks; similar to what Erik talked about in the podcast.
Anxiety is there for a reason. For example, inflammation and excess glutamate. No one can 'will' that away.

 

[laleto12]

Gut irritation is also one of the culprits.

 

[Hans]

Gut irritation is also one of the culprits.

For sure. In the past when I had gut irritation it gave me a lot of inner tension and anxiety. It upregulates the glutamate receptor, which dramatically enhances sensitivity. Good gut health is key.

 

[Ignoramus]

Thank you! Just what I needed

I think practise is really important. I bought a Fleshlight for this purpose and it has really helped! I think it is more physically stimulating than the real thing, so it's like training in the hyperbolic time chamber. I think it's good to practise reverse kegels and relaxing the PC muscle during intercourse/masturbation.

 

[Atman]

Good article. My two cents:
I had prem ejac when I was a teen through to early 20's. I found it was almost entirely anxiety driven. I resolved it without needing to think about things in terms of supplements/drugs/hormones.

For someone in a similar situation, and who'd rather stay away from exogenous substances, or doesn't find thinking about the issue in terms of biochemistry helpful, I would suggest doing one of two things, preferably both:

I second this. Searching for magical supplements is often a denial of ones psychological issues. The thoughts you cultivate on a regular basis have a huge influence on the rest of your physiology.

 

[Cloudhands]

i also think that people watch porn and think that its normal to go jackhammer mode in bed. The same techniques that help me last longer are the same ones that help my gf orgasm. Mostly edging, slowing down when you feel like youre gonna cum, and teasing her until she begs for it type of stuff. Foreplay is also huge, not only for women, but a nice long bj prior to penetration always helps me last longer for some reason

 

[Brian Douglas]

Premature ejaculation: the ultimate guide to fix it for good » TESTONATION

Do you suffer from premature ejaculation. This is the ultimate guide on how to fix it with diet, techniques and supplements.

men-elite.com

Read to the end. I have a great podcast with Eric Everhard in there where he gives a boatload of amazing tactics for PE. The podcast is 1h long, but trust me, it's amazing.
If you found this article helpful or think it will help others, please share where you can. :)

What worked the best for you?

Duct tape would probably work well.

 

[Sampa]

Hans thank you very much for sharing that podcast, really tons of useful info.
I have worked with dozens of clients with PE. In my experience, some of them simply won't do the trainning strategies, and in others the non pharmacological strategies simply don't work, so they will definitely need real drugs to create adequate neurotransmiters balance to perfect control.

 

[A-Tim]

i also think that people watch porn and think that its normal to go jackhammer mode in bed. The same techniques that help me last longer are the same ones that help my gf orgasm. Mostly edging, slowing down when you feel like youre gonna cum, and teasing her until she begs for it type of stuff. Foreplay is also huge, not only for women, but a nice long bj prior to penetration always helps me last longer for some reason

A thought in terms of your woman orgasming - to a partial extent, it's up to her. In the current era where feminist dogma has reigned supreme, too much emphasis has been placed on the guy (feminist ideology had some good bits and some bad bits, like most ideologies - but I'm not trying to step into that debate right now) to "cause" an orgasm in his partner.

In my experience, some women are really in touch with their bodies and emotions and can kind of influence/tune in at the right moment to orgasm, while other women don't have that same skill-set. Usually older women have developed this more than younger women.

 

[Cloudhands]

A thought in terms of your woman orgasming - to a partial extent, it's up to her. In the current era where feminist dogma has reigned supreme, too much emphasis has been placed on the guy (feminist ideology had some good bits and some bad bits, like most ideologies - but I'm not trying to step into that debate right now) to "cause" an orgasm in his partner.

In my experience, some women are really in touch with their bodies and emotions and can kind of influence/tune in at the right moment to orgasm, while other women don't have that same skill-set. Usually older women have developed this more than younger women.

i think in our situation, and with other women ive been with, its an attention span thing. You have to keep the focus "there", and not allow for her to daydream. For me ive found the easiest way is to just tease. After eating her out until shes super wet, maybe put like the first inch inside and then just slowly keep thrusting that much in and out until shes practically begging for it, and then it makes achieving an orgasm easier. Theres a million ways to skin a cat, and im sure theres 2 million ways to make love to a beautiful woman

 

[A-Tim]

i think in our situation, and with other women ive been with, its an attention span thing. You have to keep the focus "there", and not allow for her to daydream. For me ive found the easiest way is to just tease. After eating her out until shes super wet, maybe put like the first inch inside and then just slowly keep thrusting that much in and out until shes practically begging for it, and then it makes achieving an orgasm easier. Theres a million ways to skin a cat, and im sure theres 2 million ways to make love to a beautiful woman

Amen.