Penis Size

[TeaRex14]

I didn't read all the comments but I did see one where you mentioned your penis was 6 inches. That's about the ballpark average for most men bro, I wouldn't worry about your size. I think the porn industry has ruined a lot of men's expectations about their sexual performance. The only thing worth focusing on is paying attention to your erections. Are you getting fully erect every time you're aroused or not. Erectile problems can be a huge sex killer. Nutritious diet, thyroid, pregnenolone, cypro, vitamins A/D/E/K, red light, healthy exercise (lifting, walking, hiking, etc), and nofap is the best way to synergistically support healthy hormonal profiles and by extension robust healthy erections. Nofap probably being one of the biggest factors. Masturbation/Ejaculation causes a huge demand on the body, and unless you're healthy and only doing it occasionally then it can cause some pretty nasty feedback loops of elevated prolactin, serotonin, and estrogen. If you masturbate regularly you should at least eat oysters frequently (daily, or every other day), take B complex, and get good restful sleep.

 

[Douglas Ek]

Low self esteem, confidence issues?

Yeah man what can I tell you at least you’re not alone. Everyone harassed you on tjis thread coz they feelt you didnt wanna listen. But I mean everone on this forum probably has something wrong or felt something is wrong with their life. And theres a lot of people with sexual problems bot physical and mental. Its very common and I can bet you almost every guy has struggled with this at some point. I used to be very self conscious and cared that I wasnt good enough in all departments. I was doing drugs so I also thought my family didnt like me that I was the black sheep and wouldnt amount to anything. My girlfriend I had for a long time dumped me and told me I was weak and not the man shes looking for. Ive had close friends die. Its all life stuff its horrible. But everyone experience this typ if struggle. I can tell you Ive worried many times that I wasnt good enough when I was having sex. But after having girlsfriends for so long you sorta learn what girls like. It wont necesarily work on all girls but you gotta try figure it out. Regarding your health, hormones and diet it takes time. It took me 5 years to figure out how to fix myself to get back a normal life. And there a lot of dead ends and experimenting with supplements, pills. For me I just realized I was anemic and probably have been for a long time. Probably due to malnutrition during my drug party lifestyle. But I just came out of like 7-8 years of my life that was quite horrible and I almost went to prison a few times. But now finally everything is back on track. It takes time and work. No one has the answer specificly for you because everyone is different and figuring this stuff out is part of a normal life experience. Im sorry you feel the way you do and I hope that you’ll be happy one day. For me I just learned to not give a damn what anyone else thinks about anything in my life. I do what i want coz im in charge. Haters gonna hate man its a messed up world. Not everyone deserves your attention and you dont have to get a long with everyone. And unfortunantly some guys get tons of girls and some dont. Theres worse things in life.

 

[Jing]

I didn't read all the comments but I did see one where you mentioned your penis was 6 inches. That's about the ballpark average for most men bro, I wouldn't worry about your size. I think the porn industry has ruined a lot of men's expectations about their sexual performance. The only thing worth focusing on is paying attention to your erections. Are you getting fully erect every time you're aroused or not. Erectile problems can be a huge sex killer. Nutritious diet, thyroid, pregnenolone, cypro, vitamins A/D/E/K, red light, healthy exercise (lifting, walking, hiking, etc), and nofap is the best way to synergistically support healthy hormonal profiles and by extension robust healthy erections. Nofap probably being one of the biggest factors. Masturbation/Ejaculation causes a huge demand on the body, and unless you're healthy and only doing it occasionally then it can cause some pretty nasty feedback loops of elevated prolactin, serotonin, and estrogen. If you masturbate regularly you should at least eat oysters frequently (daily, or every other day), take B complex, and get good restful sleep.

All good information, my erections could be better but they are not too bad when I don't ejaculate, I ejaculate about once a week but I went 12 days recently I'm trying to go as long as possible, within 5 minutes of doing stuff I will have 100% erection..

 

[Jing]

Yeah man what can I tell you at least you’re not alone. Everyone harassed you on tjis thread coz they feelt you didnt wanna listen. But I mean everone on this forum probably has something wrong or felt something is wrong with their life. And theres a lot of people with sexual problems bot physical and mental. Its very common and I can bet you almost every guy has struggled with this at some point. I used to be very self conscious and cared that I wasnt good enough in all departments. I was doing drugs so I also thought my family didnt like me that I was the black sheep and wouldnt amount to anything. My girlfriend I had for a long time dumped me and told me I was weak and not the man shes looking for. Ive had close friends die. Its all life stuff its horrible. But everyone experience this typ if struggle. I can tell you Ive worried many times that I wasnt good enough when I was having sex. But after having girlsfriends for so long you sorta learn what girls like. It wont necesarily work on all girls but you gotta try figure it out. Regarding your health, hormones and diet it takes time. It took me 5 years to figure out how to fix myself to get back a normal life. And there a lot of dead ends and experimenting with supplements, pills. For me I just realized I was anemic and probably have been for a long time. Probably due to malnutrition during my drug party lifestyle. But I just came out of like 7-8 years of my life that was quite horrible and I almost went to prison a few times. But now finally everything is back on track. It takes time and work. No one has the answer specificly for you because everyone is different and figuring this stuff out is part of a normal life experience. Im sorry you feel the way you do and I hope that you’ll be happy one day. For me I just learned to not give a damn what anyone else thinks about anything in my life. I do what i want coz im in charge. Haters gonna hate man its a messed up world. Not everyone deserves your attention and you dont have to get a long with everyone. And unfortunantly some guys get tons of girls and some dont. Theres worse things in life.

I do want to listen it's just hard in my situation.. sorry to here about that stuff man glad you got your life on track.

 

[TreasureVibe]

What do you guys think of this?

There is a substance in Comfrey Root and Plantain called "Allantoin" which research shows accelerates cellular mitosis, which means it grows new tissue growth:

"As some of its other names suggest, (knitbone, boneset) Comfrey has been prized since ancient times for its ability to help heal broken bones and damaged tissues. In modern times, it has been discovered that this is at least in part due to a substance in Comfrey called ‘allantoin’ that is able to accelerate cellular 'mitosis', meaning it speeds the process of new tissue growth."

Source: Richard Whelan ~ Medical Herbalist ~ Comfrey Root

"~ Plantain has several active ingredients that contribute to its medicinal action; allantoin, a substance that is well proven to stimulate tissue regeneration through causing cells to divide more vigorously (via mitosis), aucubin, a substance with proven antibiotic actions and mucilage, a soothing, natural anti-inflammatory substance."

Source: Richard Whelan ~ Medical Herbalist ~ Plantain

 

[Jib]

I get it. Trust me. I've obsessed over penis related stuff nearly my whole life, including circumcision, which IMO is far more of an issue than penis size and is an absolute atrocity against humanity, but I digress.

I'm above average, and my ex never had an orgasm solely from penetration. That deeply bothered me. I asked her if she ever had an orgasm just from sex before and she said yes and I felt absolutely destroyed, because she'd never had one like that with me. I found it funny that she would always talk about how nice my **** was, or how big it was, how it was perfect to her, how much she loved it, and she was constantly saying things like this -- but it never was enough for me, because the root problem was in my mind. Ironically, she had serious, SERIOUS body image issues as well, despite being very attractive, and me repeatedly telling her almost on a daily basis how attractive I found her, that her insecurities were not warranted, that I thought she was beautiful, her body looked perfect -- it was never enough for her. She thought her boobs looked weird, or her face wasn't attractive, or some other nonsense that from an outside perspective was completely insane.

But it was for the same reason: it's self-created, self-perpetuated negative body image.

Trust me...I've read all the stuff, the polls, questionnaires, every forum post by women you can think of that exists on Google talking about penis size, and I would get really upset thinking that if I didn't have at least X in length and Y in girth, I might as well have no **** at all. My body image was totally twisted. Having "proof," like my ex telling me she had orgasmed from penetration before, and then realizing she never did with me, I felt totally inadequate. Who knows if it was penis size to blame? Of course that's what my mind gravitated towards and it made me feel even more awful.

I had to go back and edit out my actual numbers, because it's not helpful. Why would I share my size here anyway? Only one reason: approval seeking.

It's APPROVAL SEEKING. If there's anything that will turn women off, it's approval seeking. Remember that. And it will turn people off in general, and cause people to lose respect for you, or prevent them from gaining respect for you.

Even if you don't do anything directly with people to seek approval, if you're existing in your mind in a place where you're not good enough, and you have to either alter yourself physically or prove to other people that you're enough, that is going to manifest in your interactions. By default. It will come out in your subconscious behavior whether you like it or not. Approval seeking has to be uprooted at the source: your self-perception.

I've been struggling mightily with premature ejaculation lately. I've had "marathon sex" with my ex girlfriend, so I know I'm capable of having sex for a long time with perfect control, but 90% of the time having sex with her, I feel like I could come literally within 3 seconds of penetration, and not be able to stop it. That led to major performance anxiety issues and I'm still trying to figure out a way to get over this. It's difficult having broken up with my ex and not having sex anymore, which just allows for even more rumination.

But even she would tell me she wished that I would just f*** her really hard and fast and then come even if it only lasted 10 seconds, and then just wait until I recoup, because I could always last longer the second time. I got in a habit of "start and stop" but she found it very annoying, though that was near the end of the relationship. In the beginning the sex was always great, amazing, and the more issues developed between us, the worse the fights got, the more distant we became, the worse the sex got.

All I can tell you, dude, is this, and LISTEN TO ME: STOP. APPROVAL. SEEKING. PERIOD. Learn what "approval seeking" means, burn it into your brain, and ERADICATE IT as constantly as possible. You need to understand that your hangups about penis size are sabotaging you for no reason. And there is a lot of value in this: focus on YOUR pleasure. Focus on YOU feeling good. Start taking a more independent attitude: what feels good for ME? How do I want to have sex? When I think about having sex with a woman, what comes to mind? What is most enjoyable for me? If I stop and imagine it, what is the best sex I can think of? Imagine yourself right now having the best sex of your life, with your body as it is right now. Imagine yourself 100% and put yourself in a scenario. What does it look like? Think about that for a while. Get in tune with it.

If you think about it, it's ALL about self-esteem and validation. You want a huge **** why? Because it would feel better for you? Of course not. You want it because in your mind, you imagine girls going "Wow!" and getting really aroused by you, really turned on. You want the validation of having hot women worshiping you. It sounds extreme, but it's not, and I would wager just about every single man on the planet knows what this fantasy is like. We all want to be sex gods, even if it's just with one woman who is 100% completely turned on by us. We just want the validation and to really feel like "The Man."

To last longer in bed, to have a bigger penis -- how do you think all this snake oil stuff sells? Because all men have had this insecurity at one time or another, many for their whole lives, that they're not enough. And that being some kind of sex god with a huge **** will make them feel fully validated and have self-esteem. This is what it all comes down to.

Think of it like this: sex is step 1. Forget penis size. There is an inherent intimacy when you're having sex with someone. THAT validation is perfectly normal, and perfectly fine to crave. It is not compulsive or harmful to want to feel validated, like a human being, by having sex. It's a natural way of having a ton of attention focused on you, and you focusing a ton of attention on the other person, and two people can exist in that awesome space of intimacy and mutual 100% attention for a little while.

I think we all need this, and people who say seeking sex for validation is "wrong" are mentally stunted imbeciles. Of COURSE sex is about validation. That's the only thing it's about, and if you believe otherwise, then go put your dunce cap on and jerk off in the corner of the room so you don't bother the rest of us. I am so sick of hearing people say validation should never be a part of sex. Again: that's all it is. It's a HUMAN CONNECTION, and validation is one and the same with that. Human connection. Period.

Now that that's out of the way, penis size is in a proper perspective: it doesn't matter. What if my ex ever thought about another guy when we were having sex, or some guy she'd been with that had a bigger penis? Who knows if she ever did? Does it matter? No. We'd go crazy if we knew what everyone was thinking all the time.

Even if penis size "matters," what can you do about it? The ONLY possible outcome of worrying about your size is coming off as insecure, and having worse sex, and less attraction from women and other people in general as a result. If you want to do something like jelqing, then simply commit to it like a workout routine, and leave your ego at the door. It's debatable whether jelqing works or not but there are a lot of guys doing it claiming that they're getting results. You can only do so much, so if you want to do it, just do it, and leave it at that.

But far more important, and how to stop caring? Realize that it is APPROVAL SEEKING behavior, which is extremely unattractive. Does not having a gigantic johnson mean that you can't be dominant in bed? Does not having a godzilla sized pocket rocket mean that you can't enjoy sex? Does not having a king kong ding dong mean that women can't submit to you in bed and enjoy being dominated by you and your masculine energy? Hell no.

Women are ALL about emotions. Notice how women also say BS like "I will never sleep with a guy shorter than me" or "I would never date a guy younger than me" and then you turn around, and there they are doing what they said they'd never do. Even if big dicks are exciting to most women on some primal level, what difference does that make when the woman is alone in a room with you and wanting to have sex with you?

There are many things that men are "technically" supposed to be attracted to, like youth, big breasts, hip to waist ratio, or whatever other nonsense. I have never thought about this even a single time while having sex. You are one-on-one with another person and all this other BS goes right out the window.

When you get stuck in your head about things like penis size, you're conning yourself out of good sex, as well as your partner. What you SHOULD be focusing on is: your partner. Enjoying sex. Feeling completely empowered and excited. Having as much fun as possible. Connecting.

You are stuck in what is called the "Abiding Place" in Buddhism. The place where the mind stops. I highly, highly recommend you get a copy of "The Unfettered Mind" by Takuan Soho, and read through it. You should find it very relaxing and calming and clarifying your obsession with penis size. It's an obsession I know well, so trust me, I can empathize. I will also tell you that I know there is a way out and it is a prison you have created for yourself, that you also have the key to.

Life is too short, my friend, to worry about things like this, and if you're like me, you've spent more than enough time worrying about them already. If worrying would accomplish anything, it certainly would've accomplished it by now. It's time to let go and enjoy your sex life while you have it. I hope that all this gibberish I've written has been helpful to you even in some small way. From someone who's been through the same thing you have.

 

[ecstatichamster]

Sex to me is about pleasure and connection. Not validation.

 

[shine]

Gorillas have small dicks. Confident silver backs get mad ***** though.
A big **** can give you confidence. An amazing car can do the same for some guys. So can a high paying job or something that you excel in.
But the main thing is confidence. Having succeeded before and knowing that you can succeed again.

Caring about your **** that much is just a buffer for your inflated fear of rejection.
"Oh my **** is so small, I will cry about it on the internet so I don't have to go out there and actually approach girls"

 

[Beefcake]

Gorillas have small dicks. Confident silver backs get mad ***** though.
A big **** can give you confidence. An amazing car can do the same for some guys. So can a high paying job or something that you excel in.
But the main thing is confidence. Having succeeded before and knowing that you can succeed again.

Caring about your **** that much is just a buffer for your inflated fear of rejection.
"Oh my **** is so small, I will cry about it on the internet so I don't have to go out there and actually approach girls"

This hit the nail on the head. Its just a mental problem and penis size aint even the real problem. Unless you have a micro penis. Girls dont care. Mine is regular and probably less than most dudes and I’ve never har a girl complain. Quite the opposite actually. The whole fear of rejection is just gonna harm your confidence. And i can promise you girls look more for secure men than with big **** men. If you’re so unsecure your freaking out over your **** size then the girls just gonna think your an even bigger loser. Grow the **** up and man up. Its like women bitchint about how fat they are or having small breasts. Its of putting because it just shows the lack of self confidence. Everyone wants a stable person mentally that can be there for you always and not freak out over their penis size lol.

 

[Alpha]

Just do PE if it's so important to you.

 

[Jib]

Sex to me is about pleasure and connection. Not validation.

Sexual connection = validation by default. Any person choosing to have consensual sex with you is de facto validating your sexual attractiveness and desirability. Period. You can say that you don't have sex for validation, but since validation is a part of consensual sex 100% of the time, that statement becomes a non sequitur.

People who've never had issues having sex or simply have sex regularly would never think of it as "validating," to be fair. Even though it is, it's not something anyone thinks about until they go without.

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Back to the OP:

"Be confident" is a completely useless phrase 100% of the time it's used. "Confidence" doesn't mean jack sh** to someone who has no memories or references or context to associate the word with. It is meaningless to everyone who is told to be confident, as it only means something to people who are already confident and have a wealth of confident experiences and memories. Utterly useless.

The OP needs a way to create confidence in order to understand what it actually is, and create some reference and context for it so it can actually mean something to him.

My advice for the OP: look into NLP. Personally, I believe the do-it-yourself Faster EFT method taught (for free) by Robert Smith's channel on YouTube is the best. I am not affiliated with him in any way, shape, or form, just found the method myself and have been using it on myself for years. It works, but you need to do it consistently, just like exercise. It will not work if you don't commit to yourself and use it as often as you need to.

You NEED to address and completely dismantle your obsession with penis size. You need to realize that you have beliefs that are not true that are sabotaging you.

What is a belief? A belief is a perception supported by emotion. When you change the emotions, then the belief can change. The OP specifically asked how to stop caring about penis size, so it's obviously a compulsion he has that he does not want. He is perfectly aware that it's a destructive belief and he does not want to have it, but it persists in his mind like a demon.

My answer is: use NLP techniques on yourself on a daily basis until you change the emotions that are supporting this belief you have that penis size is important. You need to understand that beliefs are supported by emotions, and that both are changeable. It is well within your power to change both your beliefs and your emotions at the same time. There are many keys to access this ability, and I am giving you one right now that I use myself all the time.

First, identify how you feel when you think about penis size. Notice where in your body the anxiety and stress is pooling up. It could be in your head, your chest. You might have movies, images, pictures and sounds in your mind that are extremely upsetting to you. Whatever comes up, notice it.

This is what you tap on. The Faster EFT method is the simple NLP trick of going into the turmoil in your mind, then pulling yourself out of it and creating a brief feeling of peace/relaxation, then going back into the turmoil, pulling yourself out of it, rinse and repeat as many times as necessary. Eventually you will find that the mental movies, images, verbal beliefs, whatever -- will dissolve.

What will happen is you will think the phrase "penis size" and it will no longer evoke negative emotions within you. And if it does, guess what? You repeat this simple process. You go after ALL of the bits and pieces of the negative emotions until every trace is eliminated. Like bug bombing a house. It's intense, and can be quite exhausting, but it is a method that works, is easy for anyone on the planet to learn to do themselves. You can do it and you can start today.

This is work that I've done myself, and as a matter of fact, on the exact same thing. You may find, like I did, this obsession goes far deeper than you think. One trick is to ask yourself, "When have I ever felt this before?" You may feel lightheaded, a pain in your chest, when thinking about penis size, but then you ask yourself this question, and all sorts of crazy memories might appear, some from a very, very long time ago.

I always let them come out naturally. I never "dig" in my past or childhood or try to dredge up something I think traumatized me. I simply let it happen, and many times I'm surprised at what memories come up. Then you work on those, and address those, until you can think of the memories and no longer have any negative emotions about them.

That's where the real healing comes in: the script flip. Change it to a positive. You may ask yourself, "Why do women find me so sexually attractive?" and fill in the blanks. Ask yourself questions that require a positive answer. Once the negative emotions are gone, you'll find that you now have room to install positive beliefs where the old, negative ones used to be.

You can also simply imagine having great sex. Imagine having all the praise lavished on you that you previously (and erroneously I might add) believed that you needed to have penis that was X big in order to receive.

If you notice any negative feelings coming up, or resistance to imagining something so positive, then go back and do the work again until all the negative feelings are gone.

It's intense, requires a lot of commitment and repetition, but it also works faster than anything else I've tried. I promise that if you commit to doing the work on yourself, your emotions and your beliefs will change. You can and will change your perception of yourself for the better.

This is coming from someone who used to have the same fixation you did, by the way. I know what it's like and I know what it's like to get to the other side and not care anymore, and feel confident in myself. This is well within your reach.

This is an actionable plan, just like a workout program. Quick video to get started here:



Best of luck OP. I do hope you'll consider working on yourself. If not the method I suggested, then another one, but something. Every day. This belief is not helping you, but it can be changed.

 

[baccheion]

Higher testosterone/HGH and better health is the direct way to confidence. And inner game (resiliency, improved skill, acquired skills, perspective, experience, successes, significance, therapy, meditation, soul searching, alignment with values and interests, etc).

 

[Experienced]

There's also increasing prostaglandin E1 (in that area).

How are we able to increase it?

 

[baccheion]

How are we able to increase it?

Unsure..

 

[Experienced]

Unsure..

Unsure in?

I think vitamin k2 or D3 increases something in the prostaglandins?

Why do some people notice benefits from it such like bigger girth and size? Idk though

I'll be experimenting soon and see what'll happen .

 

[Jing]

How are we able to increase it?

Evening primrose oil .

 

[Experienced]

Evening primrose oil .

Noticed any difference?

 

[Experienced]

Noticed any difference?

And also sublingually , orally , topically (Penis area) ?

 

[Jing]

Noticed any difference?

Not in size but evening primrose oil helps me with hard flaccid seems like my penis is more spongy if that makes sense.

 

[Experienced]

Not in size but evening primrose oil helps me with hard flaccid seems like my penis is more spongy if that makes sense.

Yeah I get it where did you source the information or studies?