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Why? What is wrong with meditation?you said:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_inhibition
Don't say meditation.
you said:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_inhibition
Don't say meditation.
I hope he finds a way out too. To be clear, I wasn't suggesting he meditate but rather to explore his problem with it and write about what is bothering him - which he did in his last post.mbarvian said:You say you don't want meditation, which is fine and cool and whatnot, but your posts read like someone who is completely entrapped by a negative self-talk cycle in their head. I don't mean to bring myself into it, but your comments resonate with me cause I remember having a similar attitude at one point in my life and it's utterly miserable to say the least. I think the rest of the suggestions here are good, so hopefully you'd feel comfortable with one. But beyond that, man, I hope you find a way out of this cause it's s****y and pretty painful. Maybe try remembering good things that people have done for you or you for them? Might be a nice change of pace. As well as diet and s***, which you're probably already on top of. Godspeed.
Why do you help so many people through emails? Are there any spiritual or humanitarian motivations? Or is it more about collecting scientific data?
Ray Peat said:More than 50 years ago, I realized that the US culture had become effectively totalitarian, with decorations, and even the decorations were being fixed by the specialists (the Congress for Cultural Freedom, for example). I went through a series of graduate studies and projects looking for places where reality could influence the culture, rather than being obliterated by it. The academic culture, though, was rapidly changing for the worse. Over a period of a few years I happened to see a few people recover immediately from what doctors had considered incurable problems, using simple and inexpensive methods, and then I realized that some people were willing to discard their old ideas when those conflicted with useful facts, especially when the useful facts could save their life. I started doing evening and weekend classes in nutrition and endocrinology, seeing health as a way to get reality into the culture. My newsletter grew out of the classes, and that led to answering mail, which is cheaper and easier on the internet.
cantstoppeating said:The advice that actually works is the advice that helps them get out of their particular situation, and it's not politically correct e.g. if someone thinks they're ugly they should do all they can to at least look average, if someone is getting bullied they should do all they can to get stronger and fight back.
montmorency said:cantstoppeating said:The advice that actually works is the advice that helps them get out of their particular situation, and it's not politically correct e.g. if someone thinks they're ugly they should do all they can to at least look average, if someone is getting bullied they should do all they can to get stronger and fight back.
Physical strength isn't everything, even for men.
I've heard of many people who avoided bullying with wit and humour, for example.
Being physically fit is always good, of course, but I'd put things like flexibility and nimbleness above sheer strength. I like one of the previous postings about dancing. I think I'd personally prefer to be known as an expert dancer than an expert fighter.
If the worst comes to the worst, then the expression "don't get angry - get even", comes to mind.
GAF said:"On the surface it sounds like a good idea but it doesn't work."
It doesn't work if you suck at it. It does work if one becomes accomplished.
Confidence only comes from developing high level skills and knowledge in whatever it is one is doing.
Such_Saturation said:I've seen what you talk about. "Outcasts" who "get" into bodybuilding. It becomes just another activity in which to hide into. Perhaps the ego becomes even bigger and walls are built higher. Then they might go to a "mature women's night" at the club to feel appreciated.
cantstoppeating said:Such_Saturation said:I've seen what you talk about. "Outcasts" who "get" into bodybuilding. It becomes just another activity in which to hide into. Perhaps the ego becomes even bigger and walls are built higher. Then they might go to a "mature women's night" at the club to feel appreciated.
I've seen this too. People can hide behind pickup lines, personas, intellectual hobbies, just about anything. Any form of self-improvement can become an unhealthy wall to hide behind. Yet it's no excuse or rationalisation to do nothing, especially to not work on improving your strength and even physical appearance.
Such_Saturation said:cantstoppeating said:Such_Saturation said:I've seen what you talk about. "Outcasts" who "get" into bodybuilding. It becomes just another activity in which to hide into. Perhaps the ego becomes even bigger and walls are built higher. Then they might go to a "mature women's night" at the club to feel appreciated.
I've seen this too. People can hide behind pickup lines, personas, intellectual hobbies, just about anything. Any form of self-improvement can become an unhealthy wall to hide behind. Yet it's no excuse or rationalisation to do nothing, especially to not work on improving your strength and even physical appearance.
Okay, but getting muscles as the basis for everything else, I just can't see that.