InChristAlone
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Sorry for your loss. I think it is important to allow these emotions to come up. Psych drugs or supplements can help you over the hump but eventually these emotions have to come out.
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Does anyone have any thoughts on things to think about for staying strong as I work through my emotions?
Hi @Velve921 -- Sorry to hear about your loss. -- The most calming and healing "therapy" I'm aware of is singing a simple spiritual mantra, called HU. Somewhat similar to the sound of OM, but of a higher frequency. I've used it regularly for over 30 years, and feel it's given me a sense of equanimity in the face of many health challenges. If you're interested, here's a link to a short 3-minute video which gives a brief introduction to it. -- All the Best...
"When you sing HU, you may notice a feeling of peace,
warmth, and comfort as it fills your world with love" - [3-min. video]
Hi I’m following this post and wish I could offer you some advice-my dad passed away just before Christmas after a long battle with cancer-he died in my arms. The last 6 months have been a blur and I still feel numb-as if I’m doing everything on autopilot, not really living. I drink every weekend, I think hoping to take away the pain but this actually makes me feel worse if anything. You will get through day by day coping the best way you can. XxHello everyone,
I'm going through this process and as anyone could imagine it's tragic.
Does anyone have any thoughts on things to think about for staying strong as I work through my emotions?
Thank you
Hi I’m following this post and wish I could offer you some advice-my dad passed away just before Christmas after a long battle with cancer-he died in my arms. The last 6 months have been a blur and I still feel numb-as if I’m doing everything on autopilot, not really living. I drink every weekend, I think hoping to take away the pain but this actually makes me feel worse if anything. You will get through day by day coping the best way you can. Xx
Hello everyone,
I'm going through this process and as anyone could imagine it's tragic.
Does anyone have any thoughts on things to think about for staying strong as I work through my emotions?
Thank you
My father passed away last year (1 year in September.)
Don’t give in to grief.
Move on with your life, but make sure you honor his memory.
Sometimes I hug my dads urn and just sit with his painting alone in the living room and talk to it, to make sure he doesn’t feel like he is forgotten.
Give yourself time regularly to spend with your father.
My father and I watched Game of Thrones each Sunday together, so for each episode in this last season of Game of Thrones, I put his photo on the couch where he used to sit and we watched our favorite TV show together.
Your father is not necessarily “gone” - it’s just that his energetic state is in a form not normally accessible to humans.
It's been 2.5 weeks now. I've made a lot of process very quickly with moving forward. Then all of a sudden, Sunday, I had what I think would be considered some type of panic ATTACK. Never happened before.
Would anyone say this could be common after losing a loved one?
Yes, I think this type of thing is very common after losing a loved one. I think losing someone close to you can shake your reality up pretty bad and that in and of itself can cause panic attacks. Try to seek as much comfort as you can from family/friends, don't become isolated, and be super forgiving and easy going on yourself.
Any thoughts?
@Velve921 -- I just looked up Cypro, and it looks like it's short for Cyproheptadine. It's apparently a strong antihistine drug, and is also a strong anticholinergic drug. In case you're not aware of it, anticholinergic drugs block acetylcholine receptors, and can have all kinds of unwanted and serious side effects. This can include cognitive problems, ear issues including tinnitus (miserable!), and can even cause anticholinergic syndrome. I'd advise caution.
Nettles (tea) is one of the best herbal adaptogens I'm aware of, and can be very helpful for handling stress better. I would remind you again of the spiritual mantra I posted above. It can be very calming--for some people anyway. Also, you may want to consider that death is almost always much harder on those left behind than those that have passed over. From my understanding, for most people transation (death) is a spiritually invigorating experience. I'm mentioning this in case a more relaxed viewpoint on death would be helpful. -- All the Best!
Ray Peat on losing loved ones
" It activates the “helplessness” reactions in the body, stress weakening your own life, and I think it can help to get out of that if you think of your life as a continuation of theirs—the same life, though with fewer bodies. "