InChristAlone
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I understand what it takes to raise special needs children, I have one with ADHD and one with Asperger's, they are completely vax free I breastfed them for yrs it didn't stop what was already taking place prenatally. Should I have aborted them? The autistic one has zero friends and is mostly agoraphobic and took forever to teach basic hygiene (he still hates showers and having his nails cut). But he's also someone who has taught me a lot about life who also shows me so much loyalty and love one that I do not take for granted as it's hard to get inside his world. And particularly the ADHD son has taught us a lot about what it means to find blessings amid the challenges. And of course I love them sacrificially. Nothing is greater than a man (or woman) who lay's down his life for another.Do you know what it's like to raise a child with a serious disability? A child like that will require the constant attention of the parents, just to support an existence that is predominantly one of suffering; a human that won't be able to relate to those around them in a way that matters. Using a binary to discuss such a nuanced issue is reductionist and lazy. We're not talking about sterilizing people due to the supposed inferiority of their genes here; putting my stance in the same box as those of early 20th century eugenicists is ridiculous.
The irony of trying to avoid suffering is that you only cause more of it because your focus is on the negative. If instead you focused on what you are grateful for, the suffering vanishes. Yes life is a challenge for everyone but no one gets to live pain free.
Also this is all discounting that genetic testing early in pregnancy is not very accurate. Many cases of children born healthy that doctors said would be disabled or not make it.