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Sometimes when I feel helpless and weak, I seem to feel this fear in my solar plexus area. Can anyone relate? It is like a tightening in this area. How do I heal this?
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Sometimes when I feel helpless and weak, I seem to feel this fear in my solar plexus area. Can anyone relate? It is like a tightening in this area. How do I heal this?
I think of laughing as both physical and a way to release emotions involved in fear and tension.I like to believe that the feeling that’s bugging you is a meaningful psychological signal, and that there is something important for you in your life that you need to realize, accept, remove yourself from, or fight against.
Yes. This to!:)Maybe find a couple of friends and go to the most benign, funniest comedy you can find, and follow it up with practicing making each other crack up? Some vigorous sustained laughing might help strengthen and relax that area. :)
"like @Regina, who literally got it beaten out of her. ' It's true. Whatever was there (and it was huge) has released. It's just gone. I would go as far as to say my solar plexus area is entirely absent of tenderness.I think you got some great advice how to physically stimulate the solar plexus, usually by loosening/moving/stretching the diaphragm (either by laughter like @tara suggested, or literally get smacked on it with a stick like @Regina, who literally got it beaten out of her haha). And various yoga poses that stretch that area (like the bridge) can also be of help.
But all of those only handle the mechanics of the sensation. I like to believe that the feeling that’s bugging you is a meaningful psychological signal, and that there is something important for you in your life that you need to realize, accept, remove yourself from, or fight against.
That sinking feeling in your stomach comes with the terror of considering the worst case scenario—the various whatifs specific to your life situation. If it only crops up related to a certain aspect (time, person, place, activity) of your life, you have an idea where the source of fear you need to come to terms with is.
But, as it has been the case for me at one point in my life, if the feeling comes up somewhat randomly and very frequently, even in relation to the most mundane tasks like doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, getting groceries, etc., then your dragon is sitting in a deep cave somewhere, and you can’t really access it, but you definitely feel its stings and it’s confusing.
I can suggest you try two things: the first one is a short-term solution when there's that thing you're facing and your stomach hits the floor; and the second one is what you can do during a pocket of your free time, when enough is enough and you just won't let this stop you.
1. Drop the narrative.
Whatever it is that you immediately need to do, can you describe it in the most neutral, objective language to an imaginary third person? If you do that, and realize that performing this objective thing is your job (so to speak), then you can just discard all the physical sensations and troubling thoughts that accompany it, because they are unimportant to you right now. The thing that needs to be done is this, and you will do it.
2. Plunge yourself into the worst case scenario and make it ok.
This is difficult. This may not work the first time you do it. It is emotionally draining. But if you can voluntarily experience the worst case scenario in your mind, and realize that you are not a bad person even if that happened, and that even if the whole world turns against you, you’ll still fight, you still deserve to be happy, you will still be your own best friend, there is tremendous power in having this realization. Then the scary scenario (perhaps the one in which you are unbearably weak, embarrassed, humiliated, defeated—pick your poison) doesn’t vanish, it’s still there as one possibility of what might happen, but it no longer has a grip on you. It remains possible, but it is simply no longer an issue. You don’t need to ignore, you don’t need to “affirm” it, it’s just there as something that might happen, but you’re gonna do what you’re being called to do despite all of that.
Wait, I think I have this also, but I didn't know that term. I must say I am not an expert on that matter.Sometimes when I feel helpless and weak, I seem to feel this fear in my solar plexus area. Can anyone relate? It is like a tightening in this area. How do I heal this?
It seems you guessed it wrong xD. There are some good advices here already that I will try, but I really see a connection in what you're saying also. For example, when my digestion isn't that great, I notice how my eyebrows just change their stances: they are always tense and I have this serious look. Actually, my mood on those days is just awful. I get easily irritated by everything.don't know. the stomach and areas around it are very tender areas, its not surprising they sense your discomfort. you're probably going to get replies that talk about better digestion and metabolic rate,if i would guess.
Yes, this really happens to me. When I am at worst, indeed, even brushing my teeth tightens this area.But all of those only handle the mechanics of the sensation. I like to believe that the feeling that’s bugging you is a meaningful psychological signal, and that there is something important for you in your life that you need to realize, accept, remove yourself from, or fight against.
But, as it has been the case for me at one point in my life, if the feeling comes up somewhat randomly and very frequently, even in relation to the most mundane tasks like doing the dishes, mowing the lawn, getting groceries, etc., then your dragon is sitting in a deep cave somewhere, and you can’t really access it, but you definitely feel its stings and it’s confusing.
My whole chest used to be caved in and I hate even looking at childhood pictures of me. I was skinny and folded in on myself. It was not until I started aikido that I became aware of anything I could do about it. My first teacher talked about the "solar plexus" -- which I'd never heard of. When he said it, I felt around for mine and "Youch!!" It hurt to touch that area. I tried tapping on it and it felt just horrible, tender, sore, nasty pain. One of the zen monks at the school does deep bodywork. He worked on the area and would say, "let me sink in here." We'd done a lot of breathe work, meditation and aikido together. So I was comfortable figuring out how to let areas go and let him sink in. He would reach up under my ribs and sink his fingers completely in. It got better and better each time. I just remember that I would pour tears when he touched that area. Not of pain. He was releasing something. This area on me is like bulletproof now.The advices here are really interesting. Whether from a psychological point of view, metabolism, meditation, all have some interconnection.
@Regina
What do you mean by an extremely sensitive spot? To me, if a person touches this area, it immediately contracts. I would say it tickles me, but the contraction indeed exists and it's very sensitive.
Yes, this really happens to me. When I am at worst, indeed, even brushing my teeth tightens this area.
I want to ask this first: is it possible to carry my mother's pain with me, so to speak? My mother also suffers from this and when I hear her telling her story, it is very easy to understand it was because of my grandfather that she has this tightening. My grandfather was like a 'sergeant' in her house. The moment he arrived home, everyone would change their mood and position.
However, to be honest, unfortunately, me and my brother also suffered the same whether we carry it from my mum or not.
Our father is actually like my grandfather: a sergeant too. We did the same as my mum did with my grandfather: change immediately our mood and personality when he was present. He wasn't also a very present father. Everything we did was always bad and wrong. Having the constant sensation like if someone was watching us all the time (and this was true, he would be watching us all the time. Even pooping asking what were we doing, geez, lol). Perhaps it is what this tightening is all about: feeling like we have a gun pointed in our heads all the time.
I remember when I was a kid that the best moment of the day was when my dad left to work (I loved to play videogames and he hate it) and the worst moment was when he came back home (let's change videogames to study books to seem that I am studying). I remember that I would wait in bed until he went away to get up. It's fascinating sad that I somehow still do this even today with 26 years old (I mean, I can get up first than him now. But there is always this sensation that something is wrong). I have more tools with me now, but his presence still bothers me. For instance, most of things I believe (like blue blocking glasses, eating X types of food, meditation, etc), I immediately stop following them because it seems like he is there just to mock me in what I am doing. He mocks at me when I use the blue blocking glasses; he mocks when I say that eating organic or grass fed is better; etc. Like, I can't really be what I truly am.
It seems this tightening is a continuous behavior that we did for such a long time in childhood till the point we become 'like this' as our normal state of being: scared learned helpless.
At last question: my belly is always tense. Does anyone knows what that can possible mean? Of course, in terms of body composition, someone would say that is very good to my abs. But, again, it feels like we are carry on some extra heavy with us.
Stand up, or sit up. Focus on the feeling, bring it up. Note the intensity. Once you feel it there, take it out. You hold the feeling in once hand and use the other hand to make sure you get all of it. This may take up to 20 minutes.
Once you have that feeling in your hand, note the colour it has and which direction it circles. If you don't know, pretend, and then pretend you are not pretending. Now, turn it around, so it moves to the opposite direction, and use your hands to speed it up. Keep moving the feeling as fast as you can, doubling the speed with you mind until it changes colour all the way. Note the new colour.
Once it is all changed, put it back in and notice the change. Give it a few moments. Note the feeling. If you did this right it should be all gone, replaced with something positive. Report back.