Makrosky
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Thanks for the comment. It happens to me the opposite. I am a chicken when it comes to go to action with women in the workplace. I have had many attention in my current job with many and I have managed to spoil it EVERY SINGLE TIME I tried. Luckily not witj all of them. To me it feels so awkward to move forward besides game flirting that I start to behave weirdly and maybe even sabotagging myselt. It doesn't happen in other contexts. So it is good to read your comment because I thought this might be the norm. It turns out from what I am seeing also it is not. Damn.This goes back to the dating strategy you mentioned earlier, which I dubbed "social circle game". It's the most successful dating strategy a man can employ today IMO. Obviously, when you're in constant contact with girls, be it at school, work, etc., it's going to be A LOT easier to get dates. I'll repeat once again that humans naturally gravitate towards people they're around regularly. This is true for platonic as well as romantic relationships. Long before the MeToo era, the workplace was a common and socially-accepted place to find romantic partners. I believe some cultures today, including Japan, still embrace the office as a key method for finding partners. Companies are more strict today, HR may be ok with the practice in some instances.
Yes, there are some men out there having success dating today. I haven't read this entire thread in detail, but from what I can see, not a single person here has made the claim that literally no man out there is achieving dating success. What is being debated is the statistics behind it. What proportion of men are having success dating today?
Yes, there are some ugly guys that are able to date attractive girls. Anomalies happen; if you read The Game by Neil Strauss, he highlights a guy he met who had a haram of women all exclusive to him, even though the guy was butt-ugly (this was pre-Tinder, but you get my point). What proportion of ugly guys are having great dating success today?
Some people have come into this thread with real data to support their assertions, while others bring useless anecdotes. It's important to understand the difference. I merely came in here to share my own experience. I personally don't care if it's harder or easier for a man to date girls in the year 2022 vs. 2002. It doesn't change my own strategy, which is to keep approaching girls I find attractive while simultaneously trying to become the most attractive version of myself that I can be.
With that, I'll drop this specific topic.