Is Having A Wife Peaty?

[Inspired]

Peat gives horrible advice about certain social structures. He's basically a communist. Take heed of his advice on food and the body.


Also, there is no such thing as the right woman. Finding the most compatible might be the best advice if you're looking to get married.

Right and compatible are basically the same thing, at least that's what I meant.

There is no perfect person, but better make sure she is more than just "compatible".

 

[metabolizm]

BUMP!

Relationships can -- and very often are -- an absolute disaster if there isn't a mutual understanding of the need for a certain amount of freedom, and a determination to make room for that. If you have an understanding partner, you should still be able to have "alone time", and in some senses it can be the best of both worlds if you get it right. Being single can be incredibly stressful, especially if you find yourself with a constant sexual appetite that can't be gratified, for one reason or another. Yes, you have maximal freedom as a single person, and that can be wonderful. But, as I said, in a good relationship, you shouldn't feel too starved of freedom either. (Except maybe sexual freedom, but that can sometimes be accommodated too, if the relationship is really strong).

Also, being in a relationship can be financially advantageous, inasmuch as you're both combining earnings and paying less tax, and that can reduce stress.

Having kids is of course stressful, but I would imagine that stress is compensated pretty well, at least some of the time. Anyway, that's another question altogether.

Basically, low-stress monogamous relationships are definitely possible, in my opinion -- but it requires a bit of work. Whether it's preferable to the complete freedom of being single depends on what kind of person you are. If you're handsome and confident and financially independent it's probably great. But if you're not those things, you may end up just turning to porn for your gratification, and that is very far from optimal.

 

[thomas00]

How do you trick your body into thinking the partner is new?

two years and nobody has come up with the answer for this yet

 

[Ingenol]

I can recommend this book if you're considering entering into a long-term romantic relationship: https://www.amazon.com/Will-Our-Love-Last-Couples/dp/0684864924. It basically makes the case that the common adage that "relationships are hard work" is completely wrong and the consequence of people consistently entering into relationships haphazardly and not being stringent enough in seeking compatibility with potential partners. The author argues this is why so many people are in relationships that run into problems when the newness fades.