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Men's drive is to have as much sex with as many different women as possible. Testosterone certainly plays a role in this, and the fact that men's levels of testosterone are something like 17-20x the amount a woman has also explains our much more frequent sexual impulses that also don't require "warming up."
Just because this isn't an option for 99% of men doesn't mean that the impulse isn't there. The male imperative is to spread their seed as far and wide as possible. Men who don't use porn, or don't masturbate regularly, are the exception, not the rule. And the vast majority of men just accept porn/masturbation as their fate; this doesn't mean that, if given the choice, they wouldn't have sex every single time instead.
Cortisol may encourage "cheating," but who's to say that the cortisol isn't a result of men trying to constantly suppress/repress an innate, powerful part of their biology? The constant stress of feeling guilt/shame for desiring other women as your body continues to produce massive amounts of sperm on a daily basis, meant for impregnating as many different women as possible?
Guinea pig harem says 'hello Sooty'
Sooty. A true Casanova Hero. 24 females in one night. Lmao. That's my boy!
@Momado965
Too bad polygamy is written off in western society. Labeled as completely "misogynistic." People completely overlook the fact that traditionally, the man was expected to provide and care for all of his wives. It isn't a brutal and oppressive relationship as people like to believe.
I've simply accepted that polygamy is not a part of this culture, and likely never will be. People just don't accept it, to their own detriment. The only other option is to stay single and make it clear that you don't want to be monogamous because you have no intention of limiting yourself to one partner. Or accept monogamy with the full knowledge that it isn't natural -- particularly for a man.
I think women being monogamous to a man is much more natural than the other way around. Polygamy makes sense from an evolutionary perspective. Women have no seed to spread. They require aid and resources and provisioning. Men are the ones who provide it, and they do have a seed to spread. If a woman is getting protection and provisioning and a high quality "seed" from a man, there is no reason for her to be unfaithful.
The man's reason to be unfaithful is that he makes sperm on a daily basis and by impregnating more women he increases his genetic legacy.
Women want the best quality seed they can get. Their investment in sex is far, FAR greater than a man's, as they'll be stuck 9 months carrying a baby and then burdened with birthing it and raising it thereafter, which traditionally requires the assistance of a man for protection/provisioning.
Women sharing a high value man: everyone wins. They get the high quality "seed," and he gets to spread his seed as far as he can. They get the security/provisioning and parental investment as well. Women do not lose out on anything if the man has sex with other women, as long as his investment in her and provisioning for her is constant.
Men lose out on a lot when women cheat: certainty about their Paternity. The ultimate loss for a man, sexually, would be unknowingly raising the progeny of another man. This is simply not a reality the other way around. Women being unfaithful to a man who is provisioning for her is far, FAR more threatening to a man, than a man being unfaithful to a woman. The biggest threat in that case would be him withdrawing his provisioning from one woman and giving it to another....a situation that is entirely avoided in polygamy, where it's accepted that there's more than enough provisioning to go around, and withdrawing it from one woman just to be with another is not necessary.
From a purely evolutionary perspective, it makes a lot of sense. But most people will be totally disgusted/repulsed by this idea.
....and yet, those same people will continue to masturbate/use porn/cheat/lie in some capacity. Cuckoldry also is likely much more common in this case; women going for the high quality "seed" while finding another guy to raise the baby after the fact. In polygamy that is mostly avoided, as the high value man who has multiple wives has already proven his quality. I think it's fair to say that, in general, women want men who other women want.
Anyway, it's all just conjecture. Things are not changing in the west any time soon, if ever.
Best we can do as men is be aware of our own sexual imperative, and not lie to ourselves. When you're single is the best time to get in touch with yourself as a man and really understand who you are. Once you're in the influence of a monogamous relationship, true, clear self-perspective can be harder to maintain.
Interesting about your relatives! And it's good to hear. I'm sorry for the stupidity you've suffered from other people who don't understand.
Are you Rollo? lol