Emotional Effects Of Peating. Do You Crave Love Or Sex?

[mayweatherking]

Nothing I'm saying here is meant to offend anyone, I'm talking from a biological standpoint.

I'd say the "healthiest" thing in my head would be to crave sex especially if you are a male, maybe it would be different with females. Biologically, it would make sense for females to crave love due to the protection of males in the wilderness.

However, I notice differing things with my "limited" true feelings of feeling normal and good on peating, I'm not sure what direction would be better.

Sometimes I've noticed if I take aspirin, I really want to get a girlfriend or have love for some reason. I noticed it today, I took aspirin, now I'm looking at girls like I want a gf. Other times, most times, not really, but I also have low libido I'm working on.

Just something that crossed my mind, wonder if you all thought of it. I definetly notice these subtle changes when speaking to women and how they react to you. Like sometimes girls will like you more when you are craving sex more than love type thing. It's like they can read your body language.

So what do you crave while peating?

 

[thegiantess]

Nothing I'm saying here is meant to offend anyone, I'm talking from a biological standpoint.

I'd say the "healthiest" thing in my head would be to crave sex especially if you are a male, maybe it would be different with females. Biologically, it would make sense for females to crave love due to the protection of males in the wilderness.

However, I notice differing things with my "limited" true feelings of feeling normal and good on peating, I'm not sure what direction would be better.

Sometimes I've noticed if I take aspirin, I really want to get a girlfriend or have love for some reason. I noticed it today, I took aspirin, now I'm looking at girls like I want a gf. Other times, most times, not really, but I also have low libido I'm working on.

Just something that crossed my mind, wonder if you all thought of it. I definetly notice these subtle changes when speaking to women and how they react to you. Like sometimes girls will like you more when you are craving sex more than love type thing. It's like they can read your body language.

So what do you crave while peating?

Yah I think it's different for women. Outside of ovulation there is no biological imperative for sex, hence women tend to want it much less than men. I still can't quite wrap my head around what the biological purpose of men being able to constantly impregnate endless scores of women is... But if I had that capability I would probably want sex all the time too.


I don't crave either thing you listed. But I have infant twins so my needs/wants have shifted dramatically. I crave baby snuggles.

 

[Stilgar]

As a young woman, in a 10+ year relationship, I would say that a metabolic diet most definitely affected my libido.

Craving sex for me is most definitely my hallmark of health. It is more noticeable perhaps because I went a long time with little libido, so now I just really notice it. I also find that contrary to my former ovulation-time sex urges, which were very defined at one point, or lack thereof, I am most healthy when I crave sex throughout my cycle. I don't know if it is just me. It is a very satisfying, teasing sort of urge, where I just feel sexual throughout the day in sort of waves.

I crave love too, almost always, but I suppose I don't see them as mutually exclusive. Love and desire are almost synonymous for me - perhaps my woman-ness.

Vitamin E was the missing link in my libido, for sure, but aspirin and thyroid have to a certain extent come somewhat close to enhancing these feelings.

 

[PhilParma]

I crave baby snuggles.

tsk awww

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I started the build up to peating six months ago with zero libido and I still don't have any. Maybe a very little bit every once in awhile. The zinc in oysters might provide a minuscule uptick in libido.

The only time in my life that I ever had a reasonable libido was the summer of 2012. I attributed it to bodyweight exercise and a high calorie diet sustained by ***t tons of olive oil. I was never able to replicate that feeling though, and all of that olive oil probably increased my estrogen and set me back in the long run. Oh well. I haven't been able to hit consistently high calorie levels on a peat-style diet, but I feel like that may be the key. Hopefully one day I'll be able to handle 400-500 daily grams of carbs...

 

[ecstatichamster]

Huge libido...

 

[Drareg]

I think Peat speaks about something similar in Mind and Tissue. He uses the term,"to ****".
******* is seen as a sort of possession of another while love is seen as connection to the whole and accepting the other and not wanting to possess.

He may have a point when you think about it, if you could **** whatever way you want when you want you will get tired of it in this manner in particular if the sex is possession and all about the male.

Some of the modern porn categories are bizarre , how anyone can look at them,get aroused and not break into laughter is beyond me. I wonder what viewing said categories while taking LSD would be like?

 

[PhilParma]

What was it Noam Chomsky said about eating *****?

 

[dookie]

A healthy libido is one which is balanced: not too high, not too low.

"High estrogen does sometimes cause insatiable sexual interest" - Ray Peat (from mail exchanges)

 

[BobbyDukes]

I crave love a lot, but that's only because I'm getting older (34), and want to meet my soulmate and just chill.

I find my libido is still very strong (orgasms more intense than ever), but it can take me a couple days to recover from them. They take a lot out of me. Back in my day, I would be ready to go again within the hour. But I am enjoying getting older. Certainly learning more than I ever did as a kid.

 

[Amazoniac]

I crave love a lot, but that's only because I'm getting older (34), and want to meet my soulmate and just chill.

I find my libido is still very strong (orgasms more intense than ever), but it can take me a couple days to recover from them. They take a lot out of me. Back in my day, I would be ready to go again within the hour. But I am enjoying getting older. Certainly learning more than I ever did as a kid.

Bobby, you sound like a grandpa and you're only 34. It probably doesn't have much to do with your age..

 

[ecstatichamster]

men lose a LOT when they have an orgasm, especially with partner intercourse. Even men in their 30s do. And put two or three together in a row and you REALLY notice it for days afterwards.

 

[ecstatichamster]

OP was "emotional" focused, but I'll say that my T is through the roof. I can feel it. But that doesn't mean erection quality is necessarily any better. But drive is HUGE. I realize now more and more how T and DHT are different. T creates drive, DHT creates erections, I believe.

I do take glycine and very small amounts of DHEA and pregesterone. I think they can enhance 5-AR conversion to DHT.

 

[Westway]

My libido has been huge consitently since peating, in strong contrast to my 2 years of veganism where i became almost non existant. I always notice using a 250 watt bulb shone on my naked body causes a strong surge. Its kind of annoying, everyone seems hot....

 

[daIllu]

I'm kinda many times almost dumbstruck when I hear people talk about love, it's like the most misused, abused word ever and it's completely pointless because it doesn't specify anything really.

That's the way I look at it anyway :P

When it comes to sex I'm kinda in a bad spot because I've found that if my libido is high I crave sex, but even if my libido is low I still crave sex, or rather I crave having high libido. Balance is what I would be looking for I guess, being able to have a satisfying sexlife to me is having very strong libido so the sex is satisfying enough so that I feel at peace after. I want balance and control over my sexuality, I want to be strong and independent but also brave enough to be able to face my weaknesses (if nessesary) if that is love or not I don't think really matters too much to me, wanting good for myself and those around me seems like a pretty sane approach. If we take the word good, that's good enough for me, to me love is just another word for good but it's a more "out there" word just can't relate to it lol.

 

[ecstatichamster]

Avoiding orgasm amplifies feelings of love.

 

[thegiantess]

A healthy libido is one which is balanced: not too high, not too low.

"High estrogen does sometimes cause insatiable sexual interest" - Ray Peat (from mail exchanges)

Interesting. I have always been suspicious of women with insatiable appetites for sex. As a feminist that has also concerned me. Like, why am I questioning a woman's motivations for sex, but most women I have known that have a lot of sex and talk about sex a lot etc, are not healthy; they abuse drugs or alcohol, they have mental health issues, etc. High estrogen would explain some of those things.

 

[bobbybobbob]

Libido cannot be isolated from social and professional life. This is not a diet thing unless you're some sort of sick endocrinological wreck. One gets properly horned up when the social environment is right and (as a man at least) a lot of professional things are going well.

Napoleon during the upswing of the Empire was rather horny. PUFA didn't enter into it. He didn't do too much ******* once on Saint Helena.

 

[Stilgar]

Libido cannot be isolated from social and professional life. This is not a diet thing unless you're some sort of sick endocrinological wreck. One gets properly horned up when the social environment is right and (as a man at least) a lot of professional things are going well.

Napoleon during the upswing of the Empire was rather horny. PUFA didn't enter into it. He didn't do too much ****ing once on Saint Helena.

"Not tonight, Josephine"

 

[Vita3]

Interesting. I have always been suspicious of women with insatiable appetites for sex. As a feminist that has also concerned me. Like, why am I questioning a woman's motivations for sex, but most women I have known that have a lot of sex and talk about sex a lot etc, are not healthy; they abuse drugs or alcohol, they have mental health issues, etc. High estrogen would explain some of those things.

Yes, I do agree, most women I know they do not have desire for sex.

 

[JohnHafterson]

Regarding female libidos: My exgf had a huge sex drive I think largely biological testosterone driven. She had a high powered job dealing with corporate finance and CEOs, she would send texts all the time saying how horny she was. She had a feminine side but strong masculine overtones: her behavior, her humor, nice body but broad shouldered with smaller breasts. She was a beast. Nice features but lacked overt feminine curves.

She was fun, but it got to be too much and seemed artificial/mechanical. My ex wife on the other hand had a more measured libido the sex was more connected with her so quality vs. quanitity.

Regarding Napoleon: seems LaMarckian - success in daily life can boost libido. A few years back I had a sales job and was crushing it, felt confident and pretty much wanted to have sex with anything that moved to the point of getting aroused with female clients during real estate showings.

Breaking routine: Variety does seem to be helpful in the libido regard, at least for me, different types of women ( race, profession, interests ) getting out and doin very different things.